Cover Photo: The author's parents, Princeton, 1960 / photo courtesy of the author
The author's parents, Princeton, 1960 / photo courtesy of the author

Feathers from Home, and Other Family Heirlooms

“If you wanted to remember someone or something, you had to choose carefully.”

For a long time, I had only one memory of my great-grandmother, A-tso. It wasn’t a happy one. I was intrigued when my Auntie Hui-chin recently told me a story I’d never heard about A-tso—doubling the knowledge I had about the oldest relative I’d ever met—just a few weeks after my dad passed away at the age of eighty-one.

The author's Uncle I-to, Auntie Hui-chin, and parents, early 1960s / photo courtesy of the author

A-tso with one of her great-grandchildren, early 1970s / photo courtesy of the author

I was nine years old the summer we visited on the way to Hong Kong, where my dad had been transferred for work. By then I was a thoroughly American kid who only spoke English and felt profoundly out of place in Taiwan.

My single encounter with A-tso was the most dramatic example of that. When we visited the compound—the home of several generations of the Loh family in Sanhsia, including A-tso—I was taken to an outdoor courtyard, where a tiny old lady was sitting on a stool. She wore a baggy black tunic and pants, and her thin hair was pulled back in a tight bun. Her feet were knobby and deformed from having been bound in her childhood.

My dad nudged me forward to greet her. She looked me up and down, noticing my long ponytailed hair—well past shoulder-length, in contrast with the chin-length bobs of all the Taiwanese schoolgirls we had seen—and my shorts, which at that time were not worn by girls in Taiwan. Her mouth twisted into a scowl.

The author at age 9, visiting Taiwan / photo courtesy of the author

Don’t forget your parentsDon’t forget the labor of those who helped you succeed. Don’t forget these mountains, this landscape. Etch them into your mind so that Taiwan never leaves you.

The Tale of Genji

Portraits of the author's parents / photo courtesy of the author


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Grace Loh Prasad has been published in Ninth Letter, Hedgebrook Journal, the Chicago Tribune, and The Manifest-Station. Her memoir-in-progress is entitled The Translator’s Daughter.

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