How I Learned to Tell Signal from Noise and Appreciate Calm
It can be easy to confuse real emotion with the shiny drama enfolding it. Sometimes grand gestures are signs of grand feeling—sometimes they’re not.
Angela Chen (@chengela) is a science journalist and writer. Her reporting and essays have also been published in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Guardian, The Atlantic, Paris Review, Aeon Magazine, Pacific Standard, Smithsonian, Hazlitt, Electric Literature, and more. She is the author of Ace, on asexuality, from Beacon Press.
Enter your email address to receive notifications for author Angela Chen
Confirmation link sent to your email to add you to notification list for author Angela Chen
More by this author
I learned to reevaluate the meaning of ‘normal’ in relationships, and also my habit of reflexively turning to data.
Remain forever hungry, or enjoy the tried-and-true? Sometimes, I learned, it’s okay to double down on the life you have.
More in this series
There is opportunity in forcibly rewriting a story, in trying out identities that might not feel true at first.
“Though desire for sex is considered one of our four primal drives, I lack such a desire almost completely.”
Many of us subconsciously believe there is only so much good allotted to us—so, when something good happens, watch out.