Relationships

Embracing My Queerness in the Wake of Grief

I wondered how I would confront what I thought was my worst: my sexuality.

Sep 23, 2021
To Get Through My Divorce, I Raised the Golem

It was an acrimonious divorce. I wanted justice. I settled for truth.

Sep 16, 2021
How My Hometown Homie Makes Me Feel Beautiful

In any serious picture of me, I am not comfortable enough to look directly into the lens. I don’t know if I will ever be.

Aug 12, 2021
A Gay Gaye Holud for Two Bengali Brides

Promiti Islam on queerness, Bengali-American identity, and the complexities of family acceptance,

May 27, 2021
The Silence of My White Friends After Atlanta

I wondered: Who was I when I first formed this friendship?

May 20, 2021
Sending My Son Out of America to Save Us Both

I didn’t want it to make sense—to send my children away for who knows how long—but I did need them to survive. I needed to survive.

Every Immigrant Is in a Long-Distance Relationship

Distance, though it may be physically distancing, need not make a couple grow distant.

May 13, 2021
Moving Past Silence as One Relationship Ends and Another Begins

For a decade I’d tricked myself into believing I was happily married, never thinking there could come a time when the trick no longer worked.

May 12, 2021
Breakdancing Shaped Who I Am As a Black Man and Father

I discovered breakdancing in that VHS time capsule, and that was as close as I’d ever get to a culture that did not exist where I lived.

Apr 19, 2021
Grieving When You Can’t Gather

Nora Feely on loss during the pandemic, chosen families, and the small but devastating things 2020 took away.

Apr 13, 2021
Kindness Makes Us Neighbors

I know my neighbors now a little bit better than before.

Mar 10, 2021
How to Build a Life with Your Chosen Family

I was already in love with all my friends. But in my newfound singleness, I was falling in love with them more deeply.

Aug 06, 2020
Do Not Marry a Politician and Other Kitchen Table Things

I've long been taught that the appearance of a good marriage, not a good marriage necessarily, is the ultimate goal.

Jun 29, 2020
Montana Boys

We were all looking for the exceptions; all of us. Our conversations about white people had by now become banal.

Jun 10, 2020
Scabies Taught Me Social Distancing Doesn’t Mean Disconnection

I wasn’t alone in this experience that had made me feel so isolated, so removed from everyone.

May 21, 2020
After Divorce at Twenty-Four, Lizzo Taught Me to Love Myself Again

"Juice" had the type of lyrics that forced me out of my solitude, whether I wanted to be out of it or not.

Feb 06, 2020
What I Learned By Wearing My Mother’s Clothes

Sharing clothes feels like sharing a secret, the same way being someone’s child does.

Jan 17, 2020
On OCD, My Mother, and the Ways I Learned to Let Go

It goes like this: sit with the thought, don’t move your fingers, arms, legs, let it enter you, let it stay, let it leave.

Jan 16, 2020
Finding My Freedom Within Marriage and Motherhood

Navigating the burdens of expectation as a married woman in Nigeria

Jul 23, 2019
How Human Kindness Helps Us Weather the Storms

Natural disasters have a terrible way of reminding us of our capacity for kindness, acting like a yardstick for our collective empathy or apathy.