Relationships

After Divorce at Twenty-Four, Lizzo Taught Me to Love Myself Again

"Juice" had the type of lyrics that forced me out of my solitude, whether I wanted to be out of it or not.

Feb 06, 2020
What I Learned By Wearing My Mother’s Clothes

Sharing clothes feels like sharing a secret, the same way being someone’s child does.

Jan 17, 2020
On OCD, My Mother, and the Ways I Learned to Let Go

It goes like this: sit with the thought, don’t move your fingers, arms, legs, let it enter you, let it stay, let it leave.

Jan 16, 2020
Finding My Freedom Within Marriage and Motherhood

Navigating the burdens of expectation as a married woman in Nigeria

Jul 23, 2019
How Human Kindness Helps Us Weather the Storms

Natural disasters have a terrible way of reminding us of our capacity for kindness, acting like a yardstick for our collective empathy or apathy.

The Distinct Anxiety of Interracial Dating

“The reality is that training wheels aren’t meant to last. They exist to be discarded after use.”

Nov 02, 2018
Working Through the Constipations of Marriage

Beyond love and compatibility, you have to commit to getting through all the joys and struggles that happen . . . enema-rriage.

Sep 27, 2018
Why I Needed to See the Heart of Padre Pio

An obsession with a Catholic saint and his relics made me think about the pieces of myself I had offered up to others.

Sep 13, 2018