Relationships

How to Build a Life with Your Chosen Family

I was already in love with all my friends. But in my newfound singleness, I was falling in love with them more deeply.

Aug 06, 2020
Do Not Marry a Politician and Other Kitchen Table Things

I've long been taught that the appearance of a good marriage, not a good marriage necessarily, is the ultimate goal.

Jun 29, 2020
Montana Boys

We were all looking for the exceptions; all of us. Our conversations about white people had by now become banal.

Jun 10, 2020
Scabies Taught Me Social Distancing Doesn’t Mean Disconnection

I wasn’t alone in this experience that had made me feel so isolated, so removed from everyone.

May 21, 2020
After Divorce at Twenty-Four, Lizzo Taught Me to Love Myself Again

"Juice" had the type of lyrics that forced me out of my solitude, whether I wanted to be out of it or not.

Feb 06, 2020
What I Learned By Wearing My Mother’s Clothes

Sharing clothes feels like sharing a secret, the same way being someone’s child does.

Jan 17, 2020
On OCD, My Mother, and the Ways I Learned to Let Go

It goes like this: sit with the thought, don’t move your fingers, arms, legs, let it enter you, let it stay, let it leave.

Jan 16, 2020
Finding My Freedom Within Marriage and Motherhood

Navigating the burdens of expectation as a married woman in Nigeria

Jul 23, 2019
How Human Kindness Helps Us Weather the Storms

Natural disasters have a terrible way of reminding us of our capacity for kindness, acting like a yardstick for our collective empathy or apathy.

The Distinct Anxiety of Interracial Dating

“The reality is that training wheels aren’t meant to last. They exist to be discarded after use.”

Nov 02, 2018
Working Through the Constipations of Marriage

Beyond love and compatibility, you have to commit to getting through all the joys and struggles that happen . . . enema-rriage.

Sep 27, 2018
Why I Needed to See the Heart of Padre Pio

An obsession with a Catholic saint and his relics made me think about the pieces of myself I had offered up to others.

Sep 13, 2018