Parenting

How Affirmations Ground Me in Baking and Parenting

My affirmations teach me the things I still need to learn.

Feb 09, 2021
I Needed Control of My Life, So I Started With My Hair

I grieved the chance to have an uncomplicated pregnancy. I grieved the fact that having more babies could be potentially fatal. And I grieved a younger, more carefree me.

Feb 03, 2021
Resistance Can Be Playful, Too

In the face of overlapping and unprecedented crises, an immigrant mom protects her family through play.

Dec 17, 2020
How Do You Survive a Child Meant to Survive You?

My mind is years ahead, trying to imagine an America whose cherished ideals hold true even for a little Black boy like mine.

Dec 10, 2020
A Pregnancy, a Pandemic, and a Pear Tart

When I first discovered I was pregnant, we were deep into a very strange spring.

Dec 01, 2020
Motherhood, Metamorphosis

I do not wish to have not been a parent. But I think it is normal to imagine new existences when the world is crumbling.

He’s Starting School at Home, But I’m Just Happy He’s Here

Nothing in my son’s life has gone according to plan. Why would school be any different?

Sep 16, 2020
In Utero, In a Pandemic

When I say I love you, you know exactly what I mean, that this, our love, our family, is a small, fierce revolution.

Jun 01, 2020
In Search Of: Grandmas

Our son will grow up without grandmas, but we want him to remember these wonderful women he'll never get the chance to meet.

My Journey from “Spare Parent” to Stepparent

If there was one thing I was clearly not cut out for, it was being a stepmom.

Jan 21, 2020
Songs and Stories to Keep the Ghosts at Bay

We all have them, those unmet needs or wishes from our own childhood, the painful bits that creep in and affect how we parent.

Oct 29, 2019
How I’ve Changed as a Parent in the Wake of My Multiple Sclerosis Diagnosis

On the heels of my diagnosis, I feel there is no way to construct a narrative around what’s happening to me—a deep betrayal for a writer.

Sep 23, 2019
The Art of Letting Go, As an Artist and a Mother

Like a drawing is and is not mine once I’m finished with it, my son is not mine, not really, because he is himself.

Jun 27, 2019
How It Feels to Watch Your Son Getting His Hair Cut

In the battered barbershop chair, Faris sits slightly camouflaged and crumpled, as though he is a mystery even to himself.

May 23, 2019
The Greatest Challenge of Raising an Autistic Child as an Autistic Parent? The Ableist World We Live In

Being disabled means hundreds of thousands of people believe they always know better than you do.

Dec 05, 2018
What I Imagined Motherhood Would Be, and What It Is

When you give birth to a life, you are also giving birth to a death.

The World Doesn’t Bend for Disabled Kids (or Disabled Parents)

My kids have been kicked out of many, many places for being different—just like I was.

Jul 10, 2018
When We Knew Our Boy Was Slipping Away

We were so worried about surviving that we’d forgotten to show him even little ways to live.

Apr 02, 2018
“Words Are Wind”: How Do You Help a Child Cultivate Both Confidence and Kindness?

I was thin-skinned as a child, with an ego that could put bruised peaches to shame.

The Perils of Raising a Black Feminist Girl

I promised myself I would not threaten, shame, or scare my daughter into compliance. I kept that promise.

Jan 18, 2018