Generations

My Father the Minister

I wasn’t looking for mere acceptance, I wanted love.

Mar 19, 2019
With His Absence, My Artist Father Taught Me the Art of Vanishing

My father was missing. How could I put him back in the picture?

Feb 06, 2019
When My Grandfather Dies, No One Will Say He Was “Gone Too Soon”

When my grandfather threatened to kill himself, I began to wonder if, as he sees it, he has effectively stopped living.

Jan 16, 2019
Here If You Need Me: Learning to Be Present While Fighting for Your Father

When fighting on behalf of the father you love, who do you become?

Jan 10, 2019
The Greatest Challenge of Raising an Autistic Child as an Autistic Parent? The Ableist World We Live In

Being disabled means hundreds of thousands of people believe they always know better than you do.

Dec 05, 2018
What I Imagined Motherhood Would Be, and What It Is

When you give birth to a life, you are also giving birth to a death.

My Fathers and Hip-Hop Taught Me About Self-Care as A Black Man

If cancer and trauma are hereditary, is it not my responsibility to do everything in my power to ensure neither my children nor I have to suffer?

Oct 09, 2018
When Your Immigrant Mother Fights For Your Education—And You Fail

With words, spelled correctly or not, I could say exactly how I felt: like my head was a ball of snakes, like something extraordinary for once.

Oct 01, 2018
My Grandfather Helps Me Find Myself, Even Though He's Gone

My family isn’t religious, but we have a saying that we do believe in my grandfather. And an essay he wrote about me reminds me to believe in myself.

Sep 18, 2018
How Reading True Crime Stories Helps Us Face Our Own Fears

“Not thinking about these things doesn’t make them go away. So, instead, I choose to look. It is staring into a dim room and letting my eyes adjust to the dark.”

Aug 09, 2018
How A War in the Middle East Changed My Family in the Philippines Forever

Papa left the summer I turned eight. The emotional toll of a wife who blamed him was too much to carry along with the burden of repatriating thousands of Filipino citizens.

Aug 07, 2018
Up and Under: On Water, Fatherhood, and the Perils of Both

“The nurse sucked the last of his water world out of him. And then the cry, a goodbye to that wet planet.”

Jul 19, 2018
The World Doesn’t Bend for Disabled Kids (or Disabled Parents)

My kids have been kicked out of many, many places for being different—just like I was.

Jul 10, 2018
What Has Feminism Looked Like in My Grandma’s Life?

When she held hands with a man and walked down the street, it was an act of responsibility to herself.

Jul 10, 2018
“More Pieces of Us”: A Quilt, Mental Illness, and Things Passed Down

A quilt made by my great-grandmother became a life preserver when I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

Jul 02, 2018
Orbits Around My Grandmother: On the Anxiety of Loneliness

“The phenomenon of lonely deaths for aging populations echoes in many pockets around the world.”

Jun 21, 2018
Fountain of Youth: Floating Between Being a Motherless Child and a Childless Mother

“I am unmoored, my place not easily defined, my presence not immediately understood.”

Jun 07, 2018
My Father’s Final Gift to Us? He Planned a Natural Burial

His bluegrass band at the gravesite? Check. No embalming? Check.

May 15, 2018
Lost Cause: On Estrangement and Chosen Family

Staying in contact with biological family no matter what they’ve done is a message beaten into us from every side.

May 10, 2018
Cursed: Baseball Lore and Saving My Daughter’s Life

“Does cursing beget being cursed? Had I brashly yielded a power unchecked, unaware of the consequences?”

Apr 30, 2018