Generations

My Father’s Final Gift to Us? He Planned a Natural Burial

His bluegrass band at the gravesite? Check. No embalming? Check.

May 15, 2018
Lost Cause: On Estrangement and Chosen Family

Staying in contact with biological family no matter what they’ve done is a message beaten into us from every side.

May 10, 2018
Cursed: Baseball Lore and Saving My Daughter’s Life

“Does cursing beget being cursed? Had I brashly yielded a power unchecked, unaware of the consequences?”

Apr 30, 2018
My Mother’s Secret Garden

The students turned a gray patch of earth into their own tiny Eden, a secret oasis of their own.

When the Moon Met the Tiger: Homecoming and Loss in Myanmar

A homecoming could happen across many continents. It was not a physical place, but a family’s embrace.

Apr 19, 2018
When We Knew Our Boy Was Slipping Away

We were so worried about surviving that we’d forgotten to show him even little ways to live.

Apr 02, 2018
What Isn’t Mine Is Mine: Accepting Intergenerational Trauma

We inherit trauma through the actions of family members and through the stories they share.

Mar 22, 2018
“Words Are Wind”: How Do You Help a Child Cultivate Both Confidence and Kindness?

I was thin-skinned as a child, with an ego that could put bruised peaches to shame.

The Version We Remember: On the Truth and Fiction of Photography

We remember only a version of the story, and we tell only a fraction of that version. And sometimes, even that will fail us.

Mar 01, 2018
‘Spanish Harlem’: From Childhood Song to Caregiving Anthem

“My parents are quietly crumbling, and their house is crumbling around them.”

Feb 21, 2018
My Brother Died from a Heroin Overdose

I leaned over the casket with tears streaming down my face. They dripped onto my brother’s body, his hands, my hands.

Feb 14, 2018
Death of a Hen

If life is a precious gift that is over when it is over, how are we to stomach a death that comes too soon?

Feb 07, 2018
The Perils of Raising a Black Feminist Girl

I promised myself I would not threaten, shame, or scare my daughter into compliance. I kept that promise.

Jan 18, 2018
In the Kingdom of Tamarac: Shuffleboard and Other Acts of Remembrance

What I knew about my grandparents was enough to fill every hidden closet, every secret candy drawer.

Dec 13, 2017
Closed Casket: One Family’s Story of Suicide

“I never told dead brother I loved him. My fear of him was too great.”

Dec 07, 2017
Learning to Fly: When You Have to Be Your Own Parent

Even as a child I found extreme pleasure in the things I could control.

Nov 27, 2017
The Thanksgiving We Never Had

“1993 was the only year when my parents and all my siblings and I could have spent the holiday together.”

Nov 21, 2017
What I Saw When My Father Wrestled Cousin Pedro

The object of my desire is rarely men like my father, uncle, or the other men in my neighborhood. Cousin Pedro is an exception.

Act Right: Raising a Black Boy from Six to Seven

“I want him to stay as sweet and soft and cute as he is now. He is my baby boy.”

Ógbuágu: The Lion’s Killer Depression

“Did I resemble my father now with my depression? Did he see me every morning and feel arrested by the familiarity?”

Nov 01, 2017