You Will Be With Me in Paradise

“Femur, pelvis, flecks of skull—father’s remains are served in a silver tray.”

Mar 23, 2017
Messages for a Balloon: On Relocation and Families

We had other places we called home, other cities and countries and people who weren’t present that we loved.

Mar 21, 2017
When Cancer Runs in Your Family

In my frightened mind, so many people in my family had been reduced to that one word.

The Kitchen Drawer: On Black Families and Suicide

What I learned from her was that if you wanted to kill yourself, do it with no one around.

Mar 14, 2017
Saving Chickens, Saving Myself

“I know that it is scary to say something. That it is easier to think it is none of your business.”

Under the Stars: Remaking a Family

“Perhaps the four of us, our family, is the only good thing left after all the destruction.”

Feb 02, 2017
What If: On Black Lives and Mental Health

“What if Granny had grabbed a weapon to protect herself from the invisible people?”

Jan 05, 2017
A Separate Dream: Faith, Family, and Knowing When to Let Go

When a hard line on intermarriage leads to exclusion.

Nov 29, 2016
A New Light: How My Daughter’s Pregnancy Made Me Rethink Adoption

An unexpected pregnancy, a birth, and a family reunion.

Family, Fate, and Two Astrologies

The Eastern Zodiac is one area of mysticism my family can all agree on.

Nov 07, 2016
Laissez Les Morts Temps Rouler: Goth Parenting in New Orleans

Maniacal clowns and pale men with eyes in their palms are the worst my son has to fear in life. Or so I wish.

Oct 31, 2016

“He’s overdoing it. He always overdoes it. It is just Halloween.”

Oct 26, 2016
Inheritance and Time Travel

“I fear inheriting motherhood, a hot white Southern house.”

Oct 26, 2016
How I Talk to My Mother

We share a weakening grasp on a native language, and this is something that ties us together.

Oct 12, 2016
Bringing Up Brother

I’ve been a caregiver all my life. Why don’t I long for kids of my own?

When an Adoptee Adopts

We wanted our son to know his first mother. Was it the right choice?

Aug 22, 2016
Their Body, Themselves

My child casually peeled their T-shirt off; I was the one who felt exposed.

Aug 15, 2016
The Crematorium

“‘Dying isn’t the end of the world,’ my mom liked to joke.”

Aug 08, 2016
Love and DNA: My Adopted Daughter’s Search for Her Roots

DNA testing reveals some answers to lifelong questions.

Aug 01, 2016
A Belated Baby Shower

“I made nametags. Mine read ‘Nancy—Dillon’s Other Mother.’”

Jul 25, 2016