Generations

To Never Be Full: Albinism, Anorexia, and What It Means to Be Sri Lankan

“My mother’s ‘whiteness’ is disputed, by brown and white people alike, and treated as something to interrogate.”

Sep 14, 2017
The Things We Never Say: A Family History

My mother traded her independence for the fullness of a family, tied it to a post for the confines of marriage.

Of Spanish and My Grandmother

“Alzheimer’s had been pickpocketing her of a few memories each day until finally I was just a voice she couldn’t place.”

The Peaches: How to Punish the Fruit of Your Own Flesh

My grandmother wanted a perfect funeral for the man who’d beaten and abused her for all fifty years of their marriage.

Aug 08, 2017
Your Name Is a Blessing to Stand On

“We didn’t know that where we came from, we named like praying.”

Jun 29, 2017
Cigarettes and Turpentine: An Ode to My Artist-Mother

“The women I admire most are artist-mothers, who are able to create with pleasure and abandon.”

Jun 21, 2017
Love in the Time of Measles

“In the emergency room, my instincts exploded from protective to full-blown primal. And it felt like love.”

Jun 20, 2017
Division of Labor: When You Crave Order and Your Family Doesn’t

“My parents had a shared language I didn’t understand, messes I couldn’t always be there to tidy.”

Jun 19, 2017
The Privilege of Having Soft Hands

My parents’ hands were the remnants of great struggle. Mine somehow remained untouched.

May 17, 2017
Decades After Foster Care, I Found My Long-Lost Brother

“If I’d stayed, I could have protected him. That’s what I believed. Maybe he believed that, too.”

May 09, 2017
The Bathrobe: On Quilting and Memory

The act of quilting is the transformations of meaning and object.

Apr 20, 2017
How My Parents Met

“She revealed her affection for him while also noting his otherness.”

Apr 11, 2017
My Father’s Car, His Watch, and His New Nursing Home

I am driving my father’s car to my hometown to put him in a nursing home.

Apr 10, 2017
My Father, the High Line: A Fish Story

My father never shared with his family the story of the time he reeled in a 457-pound tuna.

Apr 05, 2017
You Will Be With Me in Paradise

“Femur, pelvis, flecks of skull—father’s remains are served in a silver tray.”

Mar 23, 2017
Messages for a Balloon: On Relocation and Families

We had other places we called home, other cities and countries and people who weren’t present that we loved.

Mar 21, 2017
At the Grounds: On Fatherhood and Grief

“My father was still making plans, and little plans were one way he expressed his love of life.”

Mar 15, 2017
When Cancer Runs in Your Family

In my frightened mind, so many people in my family had been reduced to that one word.

The Kitchen Drawer: On Black Families and Suicide

What I learned from her was that if you wanted to kill yourself, do it with no one around.

Mar 14, 2017
Saving Chickens, Saving Myself

“I know that it is scary to say something. That it is easier to think it is none of your business.”