Things

How I Learned to Reconcile the Distance Between Experience and Memory

As my mother loses the ability to remember, I find myself playing with my own memory.

Jun 12, 2018
Take You Me For a Sponge?: How My Marriage Survived Illness and Caregiving

Sea sponges lack heart, lungs, and the ability to move. They perform their ancient tasks because they must.

Jun 06, 2018
Flour, Yeast, Water, and Salt: How Breadmaking Helped Me Get Through My Divorce

Breadmaking made me feel purposeful, instead of feeling as if I scarcely had control over anything.

Jun 05, 2018
Get Down to Work or God Help You: Reading Etty Hillesum

When Etty wrote to herself, I heard her speaking to me, and I took her words to heart.

May 22, 2018
A Living Time Capsule Shows That to Be Human is to Be Wild

Most time capsules are enclosed underground, but this one faces the world.

May 21, 2018
The Rose Quartz Ceiling: When It Comes to Love, Men Are Praised for What Women Are Simply Expected to Give

When love and femininity are intertwined, only some of us are expected to do the job of loving.

May 16, 2018
“Parrot Isn’t Hungry”: On Family, Food, Fasting, and Ramadan

This Eid will not be Eid until I’ve spent time crying and laughing, describing the aromas of foods that are not here.

May 15, 2018
Mary McCarthy’s “The Group”: Three Queer Readings

“I think of McCarthy and ‘The Group,’ giving me language to understand myself before I even knew that’s what I needed.”

May 10, 2018
How Fairy Tales Teach Us to Love the Unknowable

Love is born in the quiet ways we reveal ourselves; how we notice and love our partners when they take on new, surprising forms.

May 02, 2018
Amethyst: When You Seek Balance at All Costs

Maybe telling ourselves we’re balanced, that we’re in control, is almost as good as the real thing.

Apr 16, 2018
My Suits Helped Me Try on Another Life, But I Don’t Need Them Anymore

Sometimes I still think about my suits and the life I could have had. Now I work for myself, and my standard uniform is jeans and a T-shirt.

Apr 12, 2018
The Consuming Power of Hunger and Desire

“As a young woman, I was rarely in control of my body or my mind. I had hungers like snakes wildly contorting from my head.”

Apr 12, 2018
Is This Device That Stores a Heartbeat an Authentic Way to Memorialize Someone?

Platforms like Facebook already act as mediums between the living and deceased.

Apr 11, 2018
Great Book Finds, and One That Got Away

“There is a saying in book collecting: You only regret the books you don’t buy.”

Apr 10, 2018
How She Did It: On Penelope Fitzgerald, Writing, and Women at Work

Fitzgerald was ground down, I imagine, consumed by how to take care of her family. This didn’t make her any less the thinker, writer, reader, that she was.

The Male Gaze: Objectification in the Narrative World

“We have become so good at seeing our environment—our planet and the people upon it—as a rolling scroll of film.”

Apr 06, 2018
We Have Always Lived in the Woods: On Fairy Tales and the Monsters You Know

On the thin line between fairy tales and real-life horror stories, and how we survive.

Apr 03, 2018
What “American Night” Meant to My Chinese American Family

Holding on to our cultural foods and customs was a labor of love, but labor nevertheless. American Night provided a little respite.

Mar 29, 2018
Capture This: How We Live Away From the Lens

I was embarrassed each time I got out my camera.