Things

No Best Friend, But Better Off

Friendship is not about going down a list with some people always first, others second and third. Every friendship is unique.

Dec 12, 2017
What I Learned from Maxine Hong Kingston

I told Kingston how much her book meant to me as a half-Chinese woman, as a writer. It showed me my own life was worthy of examination, even exaltation.

Dec 04, 2017
The Strangeness of Eating Fish

Herring in Ukraine to fried whiting on my street. Melville to Jewish legend. How easily we eat fish caught from depths we don’t understand.

Nov 30, 2017
My Mother Has Terminal Cancer, and I Can’t Seem to Stop Buying Sweaters

I’m stockpiling sweaters because they signify refuge, collecting them like talismans though grief cannot be avoided.

Can Desire or Love Be Predicted?

Data versus the real world: what compatibility algorithms can’t tell you.

Nov 15, 2017
The Colonizer’s Archive is a Crooked Finger: A Photo Essay

“Colonial photography perpetually assaulted what became the Nigerian body.”

Nov 02, 2017
Taking Care With Broken Things: How I Came to Practice Ethical Taxidermy

“I imagined that spending so much time with a dead thing might make death more understandable.”

Oct 31, 2017
The Struggle of “Eating Well” When You’re Poor

“Finding joy in food that comes from a bag or a box feels like a sin in a society that demonizes it.”

Oct 30, 2017
The Ways Things End

The end is always near. How do we challenge finality in our daily lives and in our art?

Oct 19, 2017
A Moment Spins on the Axis of You: The Fourth Dimension of Yayoi Kusama’s “Infinity Mirrors”

Our experiences with a piece of art are varied and unique. Some pieces may take a lifetime to digest.

Oct 18, 2017
How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love My Asexuality

“Though desire for sex is considered one of our four primal drives, I lack such a desire almost completely.”

Oct 12, 2017
A Beginner’s Guide to Snorting the Moon

There’s nothing we do to earn something as unreasonable as moon dust, or death, or a high C you’re just born with.

Oct 05, 2017
Where the Stars Are Strange: J. R. R. Tolkien and Me

“The best books show us who we were when we first read them, who we are now, and who we may yet become.”

Oct 03, 2017
On Cruising a Writer’s Oeuvre

“By reading the debut texts of the writers whose books I’ve at one point set down, I tried to find my way further into the work.”

When Quitting Is the Harder, Better Choice

On learning to let “grit” go.

Sep 19, 2017
Millo, My American Armadillo

“Millo is a sax player and ‘Millo’ is short for Armadillo, his full Christian name and species.”

Sep 13, 2017
On Reading Hunter S. Thompson’s “Fear and Loathing on the Campaign Trail ’72” in 2017

“There are those who fail to realize how deeply Thompson cared about his country. He was a product of it.”

Aug 18, 2017
How to Read Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s ‘Americanah’

“I am three days aged in Lagos and cry as my fingers turn the first page.”

Aug 15, 2017
Threads: On Daughters, Mothers, Ex-girlfriends (and Sewing Boxes)

Inside his sewing box was an old girlfriend’s felt heart, stuck with pins. Throw it out, he says. I don’t.

Jul 21, 2017
Mapping My Body with Sewing Patterns

“The clothing I produce may be simple, but it belongs to me and my body in a way nothing else can.”