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Mourning My Dad and the Dog He Never Wanted

If I could save her, I would. I needed to feel that it was in my power to save her, to save something. I didn’t need her to be uncomplicated. I didn’t need a good dog. I needed her.

Feb 11, 2020
My Body Is an Archive

I’ve published articles on examining the archive’s margins and gaps to recover women’s stories, but that won’t help me understand that girl who left her family when she could no longer live in shame.

Feb 10, 2020
After Divorce at Twenty-Four, Lizzo Taught Me to Love Myself Again

"Juice" had the type of lyrics that forced me out of my solitude, whether I wanted to be out of it or not.

Feb 06, 2020
Muchhadji Has Achieved the Bombay Dream—I’m Still Working on It

Most paanwalas sell loose cigarettes. I don’t smoke often, but when I do, I buy one or two. I never buy them from Muchhad.

Feb 03, 2020
After Losing My Father, One Direction Helped Me Find Joy During Grief

That first time I heard it, the music was so catchy and the words were so ridiculous that I threw my head back and laughed. I opened the curtains that had been closed for a month.

Finding Faith in the House of Capricorn

To this day, I can’t tell you the names of my extended family in Taiwan—but I can tell you their astrological signs.

Jan 21, 2020
What I Learned By Wearing My Mother’s Clothes

Sharing clothes feels like sharing a secret, the same way being someone’s child does.

Jan 17, 2020
On OCD, My Mother, and the Ways I Learned to Let Go

It goes like this: sit with the thought, don’t move your fingers, arms, legs, let it enter you, let it stay, let it leave.

Jan 16, 2020
How My Fear of Loss Became a Fear of Fire

On some level, we all know: Everyone who is etched into our being will one day vanish.

Jan 13, 2020
Finding My Language of Healing in Indian Classical Music

To cope with pain, and prepare for parenthood, I had to learn how to breathe. To breathe, I needed more than air.

Dec 17, 2019
How a Woman Artist Helped Me Embrace My Choice to be Unmarried and Childfree

Morisot’s paintings of women up close lined the walls, a pastel perspective at vanity tables and in gardens. My breath rushed in: beautiful.

Dec 12, 2019
In an America on Fire, Baldwin’s Legacy Led Me to Paris

Just as America’s horrors led Baldwin to flee decades before, I waded through my own fear as a gay, black man coming of age in an America burning once again.

Dec 02, 2019
What I Found When I Searched for My Long-Lost Sister

This was not the information I was looking for. This was not the truth I wanted.

Nov 20, 2019
What We Imagine When Women Run Away

As a young girl, running away is considered a flight of fancy. As a grown woman, people think it’s just flight.

Nov 19, 2019
Finding My Inner Piece: How Puzzles Ease My Anxiety

It’s very calming, very methodical, very good if, say, someone you love has died, but you know the world cannot stop, and you can’t either.

Nov 13, 2019
How Transition Changed My Rigid Expectations of Masculinity

Obtaining a perfect grasp of masculinity was not my goal when I decided to transition, but I certainly did feel the pressure to try.

Nov 07, 2019
A Body on the Fritz: How We’ve Been Conditioned to See Ourselves as Machines

I do not believe in a soul but these past six months of illness, I am guilty of dislocating, of clinging to magic. Of wanting relief. Of being sick of being sick.

Nov 05, 2019
What My Grandmother’s Eyes Have Seen

Around the time I was in seventh grade, I started performing makeshift eye surgery on my grandmother.

Nov 04, 2019
Raising My Daughter to Be an Octopus Lover

“Hoba! Hoba!” my daughter screeches, using the short word for ‘hobotnica’—octopus in Croatian. My friend says, “She’s Croatian alright.”

Oct 21, 2019
Becoming My Own Woman, Without the Faith of My Childhood

I had always found a gathering of women sharing their stories and wisdom an effective way to touch the divine.

Oct 17, 2019