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Finding My Inner Piece: How Puzzles Ease My Anxiety

It’s very calming, very methodical, very good if, say, someone you love has died, but you know the world cannot stop, and you can’t either.

Nov 13, 2019
How Transition Changed My Rigid Expectations of Masculinity

Obtaining a perfect grasp of masculinity was not my goal when I decided to transition, but I certainly did feel the pressure to try.

Nov 07, 2019
A Body on the Fritz: How We’ve Been Conditioned to See Ourselves as Machines

I do not believe in a soul but these past six months of illness, I am guilty of dislocating, of clinging to magic. Of wanting relief. Of being sick of being sick.

Nov 05, 2019
What My Grandmother’s Eyes Have Seen

Around the time I was in seventh grade, I started performing makeshift eye surgery on my grandmother.

Nov 04, 2019
Raising My Daughter to Be an Octopus Lover

“Hoba! Hoba!” my daughter screeches, using the short word for ‘hobotnica’—octopus in Croatian. My friend says, “She’s Croatian alright.”

Oct 21, 2019
Becoming My Own Woman, Without the Faith of My Childhood

I had always found a gathering of women sharing their stories and wisdom an effective way to touch the divine.

Oct 17, 2019
Women Writing About Complicated Desire Saved Me When the Evangelical Church Couldn’t

What I’d been looking for at the convent, I could find in reading and writing. If other writers could channel their desires, I could use it, too.

An Agnostic’s Longing: A Comic

We’ve listed the names we get called and the names we call ourselves. Some feel true. Others give us aches.

Meeting My Third Family

Briefly, I was part of that mysterious organism, a biological family; no one cared about my virtues or my bad behavior.

Oct 08, 2019
My Body, My Story

What I forgot, for years and years, were the details of what my body experienced at the time. But my body did not forget.

Oct 07, 2019
One Sister Sees X, the Other Sees Y

There are times I envy art’s effectiveness in a bilingual context, its ability to transcend language.

Oct 02, 2019
Why Wrestler Tetsuya Naito Is the Unlikely Hero I Needed

For my generation of fans, Naito embodies our time and our struggles. The closest thing he has to a superpower is survival.

Oct 01, 2019
When Chronic Pain Dulls My Senses, Perfume Helps Me Reclaim Them

I learned that kind of hard-won glamour; that we should have beauty, however much the world wants to keep it from us.

Sep 30, 2019
Why I Left My Orthodox Community in Buenos Aires

I spent so much time watching and trying to understand secular women that I never bothered to try to understand the others, the ones who never left.

Sep 26, 2019
How My Community Showed Me I Could Be Both Muslim and Queer

“It was this Islam, the Islam of authenticity, community, justice, and love, that showed me how to be a truer version of myself.”

Sep 18, 2019
Why We Shouldn’t Call Adoptees “Lucky”

If all adoptees felt not only safe, but empowered in their families and their communities, I would feel better—but not lucky.

Sep 17, 2019
The Hunter and the Hunted

Suddenly, I wasn’t just prey, I was bait. In order to hunt him down, I had to be both cautious and on display.

Sep 10, 2019
This Is About Smoking

I’m coming apart like the first cigarette I ever rolled. Loose, slobbering, and burning too fast.

Sep 04, 2019
I Found the Queer Role-Model I Always Needed in My Long-Lost Cousin

I wish I’d known Molly years ago. I wish I had known her when I was twelve years old, wondering who in my life would still love me if they knew my secret.

Aug 15, 2019