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How I Found My Long-Lost Cousin, the Queer Role Model I Always Needed

I wish I’d known Molly years ago. I wish I had known her when I was twelve years old, wondering who in my life would still love me if they knew my secret.

Aug 15, 2019
Muscle Memory

I don’t recognize the future version of me the doctor describes. To remain myself, I must prove him wrong.

Aug 12, 2019
How Fanny Mendelssohn’s “Hiob Cantata” Inspired Me to Become a Screenwriter

This film is an opportunity to help rescue Fanny Mendelssohn from near-obscurity; and to do the same for me.

Aug 06, 2019
For Black Women, Love Is a Dangerous Thing—“Bitter” Showed Me How to Do It Anyway

I imagine she wrote it for women like me. Women who wear their hearts on their sleeves but hold their hands over their mouths.

Aug 01, 2019
Love, Peace, and Taco Grease: How I Left My Abusive Husband and Found Guy Fieri

Guy Fieri allowed me to ask: who do I fear noise and brightness for? Who do I fear food for? And he gave me the answer: I fear it for myself.

Jul 29, 2019
Redrawing the Lines: How Anime Helped Shape My Nonbinary Identity

At the time, I didn’t know I could be anything but a girl, a quiet Chinese American girl, cute and easy to ignore, but Kurama hinted at other possibilities.

Jul 25, 2019
Either My Anxiety Is Less Acute or I’m Better at Managing It—Which May Be the Same Thing

The psychiatrist said that there were plenty of people whose brains did much the same thing mine was doing. He called it ‘anxiety.’

Jul 24, 2019
Finding My Freedom Within Marriage and Motherhood

Navigating the burdens of expectation as a married woman in Nigeria

Jul 23, 2019
Three Car Crashes and the Long Afterward

The story is no longer me and my vehicles but my mother and hers. We called it an accident, but it wasn’t.

Jul 22, 2019
When I Left the Cult I Was Raised In, I Learned What a Family Could Be

Spending my childhood preparing for the Apocalypse exacted a price on my ability to trust, particularly in the concept of family.

Jul 18, 2019
Soleil Ho, San Francisco Chronicle’s Restaurant Critic, on Food, Fusion, and What’s Often Lost in Translation

“Dealing with someone else’s culture, someone else’s media, and trying to Americanize it is something I can’t understand.”

Jul 11, 2019
A Eulogy for All the Black Boys Who Loved the Sky

I’m longing for the day when folk like me and Trayvon and Korryn and Lennon and Aiyana and Botham don’t need to be lucky to stay alive.

Jul 11, 2019
How Wrestling Saved My Life and Let Me Express My Queerness

Wrestling never stops, so I couldn’t stop, and thus I am still here.

Jul 09, 2019
Body Boundaries, Indian Culture, and Healing Enough to Be Mothers to Our Mothers

My relationship with food was a combination of deep love, reverence, and guilt—making it impossible for me to give it up.

Jul 08, 2019
For My Father, Every Time Is Wartime

A part of me, the part trained to put my father first, thought I should allow him into my home, regardless of his threats.

Jul 02, 2019
The Art of Letting Go, As an Artist and a Mother

Like a drawing is and is not mine once I’m finished with it, my son is not mine, not really, because he is himself.

Jun 27, 2019
After My Mother Passed, My Father’s Consistency in Religion Was an Anchor

A new period in my life started when Abu could no longer fast for Ramadan.

Jun 24, 2019
Son Boy Allowed: A Trans Mother Finds Space for Boyhood

Well, what does it mean to be a boy or a girl? The answer so often is, simply: I don’t know. And I’m not sure that it actually matters, anyway.

Jun 18, 2019
What Does a Multigenerational Mixed-Race Family Look Like?

As biracial people, my husband and I should know how to raise a mixed-race child. But I find myself wondering just how much I’ve figured out.

Jun 17, 2019
Fat and Fetishized: Understanding the Power and Worth of a Body That Blooms

The secret of the beauty of our bodies is slowly starting to get out, becoming less and less niche each day. And I hope it moves faster.

Jun 06, 2019