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Menopause Is More Than Just a Punchline

Menopause is still treated more like a throwaway joke than an experience that deserves to be explored with any kind of artistic or emotional depth.

Nov 22, 2022
On Not Wanting Children

Why are the childfree by choice such a threat?

Nov 15, 2022
The Notorious Comb Sisters

This non-conformist approach to adulthood still sounds radical today.

Nov 10, 2022
Unlearning the Shame of Living with My Parents As an Adult

I’m already leading a different life than the nuclear family I’d envisioned. There’s freedom in stepping away from that, but I find it uncomfortable too.

Finding My Asexual Identity in My Thirties

Going through puberty as an asexual person often felt like I was playing a board game and everyone had the instructions but me.

Nov 01, 2022
Why I Started Writing Crossword Puzzles

But who decides what’s common knowledge?

Oct 27, 2022
Divining New Models of Femininity from the Tarot

There are many ways to be a woman, many ways to be a mother, many ways to be a whore.

Oct 12, 2022
Second Place Language

According to people I met back home, my face didn’t match my voice.

Sep 15, 2022
Uncovering the Secrets of My Chromosomes Through Genetic Testing

I couldn’t fight off the sense that there is a certain absurdity to getting tested for a disease for which there is currently no cure.

Sep 08, 2022
How I Learned That Work Is Not Your Family

Years spent in cultlike workplaces under cartoonishly incapable bosses has spooked me from going back to the office.

Sep 07, 2022
The Two Sides of American Health Care

This dichotomy in American health care is well-known to patients with chronic illness.

Aug 29, 2022
Learning the Limits of Nonviolence

Trying to reason with someone hell-bent on eradicating your existence is not only futile but also impossible.

Aug 24, 2022
On Houses, Ghosts, and “Good Bones”

When we moved out of our house, I wondered: How much of our presence is still there? How much do we haunt the place?

Aug 11, 2022
Buying My Girlhood Is Putting Me In Debt

Each time I used my credit card, I rationalized my ballooning debt by imagining a future in which I was satisfied with my transition.

Aug 01, 2022
Why Wearing a Mask Makes Me Feel Powerful

I’ve actually been masking long before the Covid pandemic.

Jul 28, 2022
Always Check the Bathrooms

Whenever I’ve found someone passed out in a bathroom as a bartender, it’s because they’ve well exceeded their personal limit with alcohol. I also can’t help but think it’s because there’s been too little of something else.

Jul 27, 2022
The Tortilla Type of Hurt, How One Broke My Heart

What I didn’t say was how much of home each of those packs brought with them.

Jul 21, 2022
I Thought I’d Never Find Love After My Dissociative Identity Disorder Diagnosis

When you love someone with dissociative identity disorder, you are not building one healthy relationship—you are building many.

Jul 19, 2022