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Finding My Freedom Within Marriage and Motherhood

Navigating the burdens of expectation as a married woman in Nigeria

Jul 23, 2019
Three Car Crashes and the Long Afterward

The story is no longer me and my vehicles but my mother and hers. We called it an accident, but it wasn’t.

Jul 22, 2019
When I Left the Cult I Was Raised In, I Learned What a Family Could Be

Spending my childhood preparing for the Apocalypse exacted a price on my ability to trust, particularly in the concept of family.

Jul 18, 2019
Soleil Ho, San Francisco Chronicle’s Restaurant Critic, on Food, Fusion, and What’s Often Lost in Translation

“Dealing with someone else’s culture, someone else’s media, and trying to Americanize it is something I can’t understand.”

Jul 11, 2019
A Eulogy for All the Black Boys Who Loved the Sky

I’m longing for the day when folk like me and Trayvon and Korryn and Lennon and Aiyana and Botham don’t need to be lucky to stay alive.

Jul 11, 2019
How Wrestling Saved My Life and Let Me Express My Queerness

Wrestling never stops, so I couldn’t stop, and thus I am still here.

Jul 09, 2019
Body Boundaries, Indian Culture, and Healing Enough to Be Mothers to Our Mothers

My relationship with food was a combination of deep love, reverence, and guilt—making it impossible for me to give it up.

Jul 08, 2019
For My Father, Every Time Is Wartime

A part of me, the part trained to put my father first, thought I should allow him into my home, regardless of his threats.

Jul 02, 2019
The Art of Letting Go, As an Artist and a Mother

Like a drawing is and is not mine once I’m finished with it, my son is not mine, not really, because he is himself.

Jun 27, 2019
After My Mother Passed, My Father’s Consistency in Religion Was an Anchor

A new period in my life started when Abu could no longer fast for Ramadan.

Jun 24, 2019
Son Boy Allowed: A Trans Mother Finds Space for Boyhood

Well, what does it mean to be a boy or a girl? The answer so often is, simply: I don’t know. And I’m not sure that it actually matters, anyway.

Jun 18, 2019
What Does a Multigenerational Mixed-Race Family Look Like?

As biracial people, my husband and I should know how to raise a mixed-race child. But I find myself wondering just how much I’ve figured out.

Jun 17, 2019
Fat and Fetishized: Understanding the Power and Worth of a Body That Blooms

The secret of the beauty of our bodies is slowly starting to get out, becoming less and less niche each day. And I hope it moves faster.

Jun 06, 2019
What to Expect When You Didn’t Expect a Preemie

After you have a preemie, but before you get to take your baby home, the world keeps going without you. It’s shocking, honestly, how much the world keeps going.

Jun 06, 2019
In Kolkata, This Survivor of Domestic Violence Sought Justice—Through the Restoration of Her Property

Rozha fled an abusive marriage, and survived the death of her son. Now she claims what is hers.

Jun 05, 2019
On Violations, Macarons, and the Pursuit of Beauty I Can Control

It felt as though I had been evicted from my own body, and it had been trashed in my absence. My resentment was as precise as any recipe.

Speculating on Queer Pasts to Achieve a Queer Eternity for My Tío Cano

I want to believe that I inherited too ways of feeling joy, ways of finding pleasure, ways of being with other queers in raucous and wild ways.

Jun 03, 2019
Japanese Breakfast, a.k.a. Michelle Zauner, Talks with Noah Cho About Food, Family, and Grief

“I found myself dwelling on these parts of Korean culture as a way to reconnect with my identity and also the memory of my mom.”

May 30, 2019
How the Grateful Dead Helped Me Embrace Mortality

Suddenly, miraculously, it was no longer dismay that I felt. It was freedom. It was Death doffing its blackness and revealing itself to me as life.

May 28, 2019
How It Feels to Watch Your Son Getting His Hair Cut

In the battered barbershop chair, Faris sits slightly camouflaged and crumpled, as though he is a mystery even to himself.

May 23, 2019