Aug 11, 2022
On Houses, Ghosts, and “Good Bones”
When we moved out of our house, I wondered: How much of our presence is still there? How much do we haunt the place?
What Reading ‘Nevada’ Across Transition Did For Me
Transition needn’t be a straight line.
Aug 09, 2022
Buying My Girlhood Is Putting Me In Debt
Each time I used my credit card, I rationalized my ballooning debt by imagining a future in which I was satisfied with my transition.
Aug 01, 2022
Why Wearing a Mask Makes Me Feel Powerful
I’ve actually been masking long before the Covid pandemic.
Jul 28, 2022
Always Check the Bathrooms
Whenever I’ve found someone passed out in a bathroom as a bartender, it’s because they’ve well exceeded their personal limit with alcohol. I also can’t help but think it’s because there’s been too little of something else.
Jul 27, 2022
The Tortilla Type of Hurt, How One Broke My Heart
What I didn’t say was how much of home each of those packs brought with them.
Jul 21, 2022
I Thought I’d Never Find Love After My Dissociative Identity Disorder Diagnosis
When you love someone with dissociative identity disorder, you are not building one healthy relationship—you are building many.
Jul 19, 2022
The Price of Admission for Fat Bodies
Anyone who has lost and subsequently gained weight back can tell you that you will be treated differently in real, material ways. The difference is at once alluring and painful.
Jul 14, 2022
Small Patches of America: When America’s Suburban Romance Is Undone
In other words, the suburbs are equated with whiteness because they were designed to be.
Jun 30, 2022
Falling: A Comic
I found it freeing: to accept—instead of fear—gravity, to savor that brief float before the fall.
Jun 27, 2022
Medical Care Needs More Space for Patient Narratives
I want medicine to meet me where I am, not where it wants me to be.
Jun 16, 2022
Why I’m Still Dreaming of a Brown Percy Jackson
BIPOC kids can be the heroes, the fighters who push back against impossible odds. We, too, should be the stuff of legends and prophecies.
Jun 14, 2022
Fostering
As a queer person, I’d had no role models growing up, had to stumble through every relationship, learning how to love as best I could. Dog fostering was a kind of parallel crash course.
May 31, 2022
In a Time of Mass Mourning, Grief Stories Are a Lifeline
In our constrained culture where public, raw grief is not socially acceptable, I fear that grief stories are being asked to do too much.
May 24, 2022
On Hiking Alone
Here is my official statement on why I do most things alone: I am a lone wolf. I am comfortable with myself. Here is another explanation: There is something about me that is fundamentally unlikeable.
May 24, 2022
My Mother, My Ex, and Facial Feminization Surgery: A Comic
I believe so strongly in the beauty and autonomy of body transformation, but I’m worried that will erase the small visible echoes of my (and my mother’s) history of survival.
May 23, 2022
Getting Famous On Tumblr Ruined My Relationship to My Body
In the time since being an active Tumblr user, I’ve seen our cultural standards for what is “desirable” shift so much.
May 17, 2022
Finding Salvation in Death Cab for Cutie
I needed her to tell me that it was okay to doubt, to yearn, for the lyrics in our headphones to mean something sacred—with or without God.
May 05, 2022
For Queer Girls, Simping Is a Love Language
I’m embracing the label, with all its yearning, try-hard connotations, because desire shouldn’t be embarrassing and love does require trying hard.
May 02, 2022
My First Taste of Protest In a Thai Roadside Café
Will it challenge how they feel about the kingdom? The nationalistic pride of what it means to be Thai?
Apr 21, 2022
