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Small Patches of America: When America’s Suburban Romance Is Undone

In other words, the suburbs are equated with whiteness because they were designed to be.

Jun 30, 2022
Falling: A Comic

I found it freeing: to accept—instead of fear—gravity, to savor that brief float before the fall.

Jun 27, 2022
Medical Care Needs More Space for Patient Narratives

I want medicine to meet me where I am, not where it wants me to be.

Why I’m Still Dreaming of a Brown Percy Jackson

BIPOC kids can be the heroes, the fighters who push back against impossible odds. We, too, should be the stuff of legends and prophecies.

Jun 14, 2022
Fostering

As a queer person, I’d had no role models growing up, had to stumble through every relationship, learning how to love as best I could. Dog fostering was a kind of parallel crash course.

May 31, 2022
In a Time of Mass Mourning, Grief Stories Are a Lifeline

In our constrained culture where public, raw grief is not socially acceptable, I fear that grief stories are being asked to do too much.

May 24, 2022
On Hiking Alone

Here is my official statement on why I do most things alone: I am a lone wolf. I am comfortable with myself. Here is another explanation: There is something about me that is fundamentally unlikeable.

May 24, 2022
My Mother, My Ex, and Facial Feminization Surgery: A Comic

I believe so strongly in the beauty and autonomy of body transformation, but I’m worried that will erase the small visible echoes of my (and my mother’s) history of survival.

May 23, 2022
Getting Famous On Tumblr Ruined My Relationship to My Body

In the time since being an active Tumblr user, I’ve seen our cultural standards for what is “desirable” shift so much.

May 17, 2022
Finding Salvation in Death Cab for Cutie

I needed her to tell me that it was okay to doubt, to yearn, for the lyrics in our headphones to mean something sacred—with or without God.

May 05, 2022
For Queer Girls, Simping Is a Love Language

I’m embracing the label, with all its yearning, try-hard connotations, because desire shouldn’t be embarrassing and love does require trying hard.

May 02, 2022
My First Taste of Protest In a Thai Roadside Café

Will it challenge how they feel about the kingdom? The nationalistic pride of what it means to be Thai?

Apr 21, 2022
Can We Dance as the World Falls Apart?

When Russia invaded Ukraine at the end of February, I found myself asking: What pleasures are permissible during wartime?

Apr 19, 2022
The Curious Lives of Ski Migrants

Look closely and you see something that has been left behind, mourned, and reassembled from new parts.

Apr 18, 2022
A Final Kampai for Angel’s Share, My Favorite Bar in New York

Why not form friendship around a love of good drink, openness, and a desire to treat each other with fairness?

My Father Tried to Preserve Nature—And the Best of Him—In His Writing

My father has been gone for so long now. There’s nothing for me to escape anymore. I read his book to try to believe him again.

Apr 12, 2022
Little Girls Get to Be Ingénues—What About Big Girls?

Make me thin, I told God. Make me pretty. I added to the list: Make me Annie.

Finding Love When You’re Forty and Happily Single

My identity is tied up in my singleness, my childlessness, and I’m not sure I want to let that go.

Apr 06, 2022
Learning to Live in a Body That Fights Itself

I have spent most of my life hating the fact of having a body. It makes sense that my body would eventually start to hate me back.

Apr 05, 2022
On Playing Risk and Studying the Maps of Colonialism

Soon after I bought the game, I began to obsess over another map, one that also didn’t fully exist.

Mar 31, 2022