How To

How to Be Gay and Safe in Nigeria

“The singular duty you owe yourself is to be alive. Don’t jeopardize that for unsolvable peril.”

Jun 28, 2018
How I Learned to Stop Judging And Love Insta-Witches

“The whole idea of a spell is that you send your intention outward into the universe—what if the Internet is just another way to do that?”

Jun 07, 2018
How This Lawyer Learned to Call Herself a Writer

My vision of a writer has always been someone quiet, someone introverted, and—especially—someone white.

Jan 30, 2018
How Do I Accept That My Friends Have Moved On Without Me?

There is no way to ask the question “Why don’t you like me anymore?” that will bring you peace.

Jan 16, 2018
Magic and Echoes: How Music Helps Me Write

Acoustic-rich spaces feel enlivening and the echoes they produce sound like life.

Jan 09, 2018
Why I Wanted to Write About Anger

I want to write about space and time, and feeling like somehow we’ve always had less of it than our male counterparts.

How Do I Keep My Old Work Friends Without the Old Work Drama?

“Friendship is here to delight and expand and challenge and deepen you, not to be a hand dragging you back into the pit.”

Dec 11, 2017
My Editor Was Black

Debut author Naima Coster on working with Morgan Parker, the whiteness of publishing, and literary self-determination.

Dec 11, 2017
Please Don’t Pray for Us—We’ll Have Children When We’re Ready!

People I hardly knew implied that without children, I was failing as a woman, a Muslim, and a human being.

I’m Just Not That Into Him (As a Friend)—How Do I Gently Shut Him Down?

“Think of yourself as Beyoncé, or Lin-Manuel Miranda: Everyone wants to be friends with them, and that’s not possible.”

Nov 14, 2017
How Not to Do Peyote When You’re Panicking About Fascism

If many voters had emptied their minds of reason and empathy, had these spiritual tourists not done the same?

Nov 02, 2017
How to Mark a Child’s Religious Milestones

Shoshana and Saadia discuss milestones and coming-of-age ceremonies in their respective faith traditions.

Sometimes I Want to March

Despite hopes that writing is enough to cope with reality, to admit we should do something other than writing was liberating.

Oct 24, 2017
The Story I Can’t Write About My Family

In fiction, one needs motivations, wants, and fears; one needs cause and effect. In life, it’s messier.

How Watching Movies Helped Me Write a Book About Music

What I wanted to say about Arcade Fire’s “The Suburbs” has everything to do with the movies and TV series I love.

Sep 08, 2017
Between Sex Work and Poetry, a Proposition from a Writing Professor

“I trusted him, as students must their teachers, and he betrayed my trust.”

Aug 29, 2017
How to Coauthor a Book and Stay Good Friends

“You should absolutely burn a penis candle before doing anything important.”

The Invisibles: American Polarization and the Reality Gap

“The fracturing of our political reality is a wound a long time in the making.”