Family

The Thrill and Grief of Being a Singlehanded Sailor

I still wonder, what is the right amount of time to grieve?

Nov 24, 2020
Motherhood, Metamorphosis

I do not wish to have not been a parent. But I think it is normal to imagine new existences when the world is crumbling.

Still Life With Thelma and Louise, My ‘Ex-Batt’ Chickens

For my rescued hens, every day was the best day they’d ever had.

Nov 03, 2020
Little Girl, Big Dinosaur Costume

Fashion is about more than looking good, or feeling comfortable—it’s about how your clothes tell your story.

Oct 29, 2020
Three Generations of Elizabeths, Breast Cancer, and Self-Preservation

When your maternal grandmother dies from breast cancer, there’s this strange intersection between her health and your mother’s health and yours.

Oct 05, 2020
He’s Starting School at Home, But I’m Just Happy He’s Here

Nothing in my son’s life has gone according to plan. Why would school be any different?

Sep 16, 2020
Why I Stopped Celebrating My “Birthday”

I don’t know when I was born. I’ve stopped pretending that I do.

Sep 09, 2020
Seedlings, or What Has Been Passed On

Just like plants, we inherit some traits from those who came before us, but when I spend time with my siblings I’m amazed by how different we are.

Sep 01, 2020
Trying to Conceive Feels a Little Bit Less Awful Than Not Trying

It isn’t my job to bear as much pain as I possibly can to prove that I am somehow worthy of becoming a mother. Why is it so hard to remember this?

Aug 31, 2020
To Grieve, We Began a Book Club for Two

Our first book club discussion was a learning experience.

Aug 31, 2020
Give and Bake

If the muffins had been good, we’d have eaten them and gone to bed. But the story of their catastrophic badness: that, we could forever savor.

Aug 10, 2020
How to Build a Life with Your Chosen Family

I was already in love with all my friends. But in my newfound singleness, I was falling in love with them more deeply.

Aug 06, 2020
As Mourning Rituals Change, What Comes Next?

When my grandmother died, she didn't want a funeral. She did have thoughts about what we should do with her ashes.

Jul 06, 2020
Do Not Marry a Politician and Other Kitchen Table Things

I've long been taught that the appearance of a good marriage, not a good marriage necessarily, is the ultimate goal.

Jun 29, 2020
In Utero, In a Pandemic

When I say I love you, you know exactly what I mean, that this, our love, our family, is a small, fierce revolution.

Jun 01, 2020
The Mother of Reckoning

One of my mothers, I thought, could be dead.

May 19, 2020
How My Family Cookbook Brought Me Back Home

We weren’t exactly rewriting our family traditions, but it felt good knowing that there was still a place for me in them.

May 12, 2020
Dying in America, or How to Become Completely Invisible

There is no guidebook or set of rules for us to follow; there is no concrete “American” etiquette around death.

I Want My Mommy and I’m Glad She’s Not Alive for Covid-19

I wish I could talk to my mom about the irony that, forty years later, shelves are being ransacked and we are standing in lines to buy bread.

Apr 23, 2020
Learning to Eat While Pregnant and Recovering from an Eating Disorder

I pray my baby will love their body, or at least accept it, and carry it around the world, just as I have carried them too, with pride and joy.

Apr 07, 2020