Culture

After Losing My Father, One Direction Helped Me Find Joy During Grief

That first time I heard it, the music was so catchy and the words were so ridiculous that I threw my head back and laughed. I opened the curtains that had been closed for a month.

A Love Letter to Old Navy’s Wide-Legged Jeans

When I walk to the train, my shadow falls wider, and I like that I’m taking up more space.

Jan 08, 2020
Gabrielle Bellot and Megan Milks: Baldwin, Machado, and Other Writers Who Made Us Bolder

“What do we want? Livable lives. Thriving communities. The right to our bodies and our desires. Love. Resilience. Possibility. Queer genius.”

Finding My Language of Healing in Indian Classical Music

To cope with pain, and prepare for parenthood, I had to learn how to breathe. To breathe, I needed more than air.

Dec 17, 2019
How a Woman Artist Helped Me Embrace My Choice to be Unmarried and Childfree

Morisot’s paintings of women up close lined the walls, a pastel perspective at vanity tables and in gardens. My breath rushed in: beautiful.

Dec 12, 2019
How My Mother Protected Us from My Father and Found Solace in Art

My mother described the Rembrandt paintings as her friends. I'd never heard anyone talk about art that way, instilling it with something like a personhood of its own.

Dec 10, 2019
Wherever the Limdi Grows: Growing Up Gujarati in Southern California

I deliberately and obstinately use the word ‘limdi’ and not the term ‘curry leaf’ because the word ‘curry’ has always bothered me.

Dec 09, 2019
Finding Home and Comfort in the Food of Korean American Chef Eunjo Park

Eunjo Park, the executive chef at Momofuku’s Kawi, is cooking her way through it. Her food is a reminder that it’s okay not to be one-hundred percent anything.

Dec 03, 2019
In an America on Fire, Baldwin’s Legacy Led Me to Paris

Just as America’s horrors led Baldwin to flee decades before, I waded through my own fear as a gay, black man coming of age in an America burning once again.

Dec 02, 2019
Can You Please Say Something in Khelobedu?

For me, Khelobedu is a language, a culture, home. For most South Africans, it doesn’t exist.

Nov 12, 2019
Finding Comfort and Confidence in the Wigs I Create

When I first meet a client, I usually remove whatever wig I happen to be wearing, and the tension settles.

How Rewatching ‘Charmed’ Helped Me Separate Magic From Mania

When palm trees swing in the soft breeze, I remind myself that my body is not an orchestra, and the trees are not dancing for me.

On Horror Movies and What It Means to Rewrite the Dead Girl

She is the page on which the story is written. Her body is a crime scene, and the victim of the crime, and the perpetrator of a crime, all at once.

Growing Mushrooms at the End of the World

A mastery of mushrooms and their uses could help me survive in a post-apocalyptic world—a world that didn’t feel all that far away.

Oct 15, 2019
Home Is Where the Taro Buns Are

How a small bakery in the Midwest gave me the Asian community I'd been searching for

Oct 10, 2019
Finding My Mother—and Me—in the Women of ‘Girl, Interrupted’

Living with mental illness is a constant cycle of wellness and illness, and each recovery is impermanent.

Oct 03, 2019
When Chronic Pain Dulls My Senses, Perfume Helps Me Reclaim Them

I learned that kind of hard-won glamour; that we should have beauty, however much the world wants to keep it from us.

Sep 30, 2019
How Learning to Dress Myself Helped Me Understand My Trans Identity

There’s a part of me that is overwhelmed by the possibilities, by the fact that I finally look the way I used to only imagine I might.

Sep 26, 2019
How My Community Showed Me I Could Be Both Muslim and Queer

“It was this Islam, the Islam of authenticity, community, justice, and love, that showed me how to be a truer version of myself.”

Sep 18, 2019
How My Grandmother Took Me from Dollar Store to Dior

Gramsie wasn’t being a snob. Or, she wasn’t just being a snob. She was trying to school me.

Sep 17, 2019