Arts & Culture

On Fatherhood, Masculinity, and Steely Dan

But of course, all of this isn’t about ‘Gaucho’ or masculinity, really. It’s about trauma, about breaking a cycle you didn’t consent to entering.

Oct 03, 2022
Every Queer Person Should Learn How to Fight

On its surface, Brazilian jiu-jitsu was not a sport that I belonged in. To say that it is macho is an understatement.

Sep 21, 2022
The One With the Offensive Joke About Intersex People

Like any sitcom created before the mid-aughts—around the time Hollywood started doing the bare minimum to give space to marginalized people—‘Friends’ has not aged well.

Sep 20, 2022
Legolas Bends the Space-Time Continuum

As the music crescendos, you fall, and then you fall some more. A portal, unused for twenty years, cracks open, and then—here you are again.

Sep 15, 2022
Reflecting on the Challenges of Telling Femme, Black, Queer Stories

In writing for TV, I’m committed to doing what I can to wave the Black-femme-boy flag. We deserve to be heroes.

Sep 13, 2022
Looking into the Reflections of Andrei Tarkovsky’s ‘Mirror’

The filmmaker’s retreat from the conventions of Socialist realism—patriotism, militarism, subservience—becomes a journey to locate the self outside the strictures of state ideology.

Sep 01, 2022
Miss Scarlet, in the Lounge, with the Rope: What Clue Taught Me About Gender

Being a girl meant minimizing myself and my needs, but Miss Scarlet embodied glamour, power and possibility in an unapologetically femme package.

Aug 31, 2022
When the South Drove Me Away, Kacey Musgraves’ Music Offered Me a Home

I’m a queer, northeast girl with southern roots, and no one has captured that duality quite like Kacey Musgraves.

Aug 25, 2022
This Cartoon Will Help You Rethink Your Definition of Intimacy

The show went a step further than other cartoons of the time: It showed young women intentionally building a life together.

Journalism and Literature Need to Make Room for “Unfamiliar” Stories

To refresh our sense of empathy we have to expose ourselves to other perspectives. In the news, in literature, in life.

Aug 16, 2022
Conversations with Friends with Endometriosis

All my life, I had looked for answers in books, and I was no different when it came to endometriosis.

Aug 11, 2022
Horror Films Understand the Terror of Pregnancy

We are told we will forget the pain, as though all the trauma of childbirth evaporates from our minds. But it did not for me.

Aug 08, 2022
How Perfume Gives Me Peace in My Genderfluidity

There is no opposite to reconcile. I’ve been both bride and groom, loved and lived as both, since both lived in me.

Aug 04, 2022
The Enduring Myth of the It Girl

The mystique behind icons like Kim Kardashian and Marilyn Monroe comes from the parts of American culture we prefer not to look at too closely.

Aug 03, 2022
According to ‘Finding Magic Mike,’ Feeling Sexy Is a State of Mind

To perform is to literally be seen, to expose yourself willingly. It’s much less scary with people who have your back.

Aug 02, 2022
Pop Culture’s Problem with Middle-Aged Women

Women of a certain age are still largely invisible and left out of our narratives—or else, she’s a very particular type of middle-aged woman.

Shakira’s Crossover into American Music Taught Me to Reject My Latinx Roots—Then Reclaim Them

The arc of my journey with Shakira traces a path from veneration to rejection to reembrace.

Jul 26, 2022
David Attenborough Helps Me Explain the Climate Crisis to My Son

I use his favorite David Attenborough shows to help me explain my climate activism

Jul 25, 2022