Oct 03, 2022
On Fatherhood, Masculinity, and Steely Dan
But of course, all of this isn’t about ‘Gaucho’ or masculinity, really. It’s about trauma, about breaking a cycle you didn’t consent to entering.
But of course, all of this isn’t about ‘Gaucho’ or masculinity, really. It’s about trauma, about breaking a cycle you didn’t consent to entering.
On its surface, Brazilian jiu-jitsu was not a sport that I belonged in. To say that it is macho is an understatement.
Like any sitcom created before the mid-aughts—around the time Hollywood started doing the bare minimum to give space to marginalized people—‘Friends’ has not aged well.
As the music crescendos, you fall, and then you fall some more. A portal, unused for twenty years, cracks open, and then—here you are again.
In writing for TV, I’m committed to doing what I can to wave the Black-femme-boy flag. We deserve to be heroes.
The filmmaker’s retreat from the conventions of Socialist realism—patriotism, militarism, subservience—becomes a journey to locate the self outside the strictures of state ideology.
Being a girl meant minimizing myself and my needs, but Miss Scarlet embodied glamour, power and possibility in an unapologetically femme package.
I’m a queer, northeast girl with southern roots, and no one has captured that duality quite like Kacey Musgraves.
The show went a step further than other cartoons of the time: It showed young women intentionally building a life together.
To refresh our sense of empathy we have to expose ourselves to other perspectives. In the news, in literature, in life.
All my life, I had looked for answers in books, and I was no different when it came to endometriosis.
Transition needn’t be a straight line.
We are told we will forget the pain, as though all the trauma of childbirth evaporates from our minds. But it did not for me.
There is no opposite to reconcile. I’ve been both bride and groom, loved and lived as both, since both lived in me.
The mystique behind icons like Kim Kardashian and Marilyn Monroe comes from the parts of American culture we prefer not to look at too closely.
To perform is to literally be seen, to expose yourself willingly. It’s much less scary with people who have your back.
Women of a certain age are still largely invisible and left out of our narratives—or else, she’s a very particular type of middle-aged woman.
The arc of my journey with Shakira traces a path from veneration to rejection to reembrace.
I use his favorite David Attenborough shows to help me explain my climate activism
