Culture

How I Learned the Craft of Going on Dates with Girls

I have dated long enough to see a change, and I am still young enough to work at the craft.

Nov 15, 2018
How to Survive a Disaster Movie: Be White. Speak English.

When Americans consume media that privileges white survival, what does it mean for which disasters earn our attention, our money, our likes, our grief?

Nov 08, 2018
What Wong Kar-wai’s Films Meant to Young Asians in America

Wong Kar-wai’s films showed me how to navigate that liminal space between tenderness and loneliness, connection and alienation, East and West.

Nov 07, 2018
A Recipe for Survival

Your stomach hurts because all you’ve eaten this week is frozen yogurt—but it is a hurt you can bear more than hunger.

Oct 25, 2018
When Your Family Wants You To Be “All Boy”

I wanted to tell him that, if I could, I would give him my body to use however he saw fit. It meant nothing to me. If only bodies were like gloves you could peel off and lose.

Sep 12, 2018
How Truthful Depictions of Suicidal Ideation Help Me Resist My Own

If we’re going to spend so much time with suicide in pop culture, I do believe we are owed an honest reckoning with what ideation is, as well as depictions that are truthful rather than dangerous.

Sep 10, 2018
Is the Green You See, the Green I See?

As my brain absorbed these other names, the colors seemed to shift. The names themselves were changing how I saw the colors.

My Queer Chinese Comrades, in My Mother Tongue

Today tongzhi is seldom used in a political context, if ever: The Beijing LGBT center is called Beijing Comrade Center; 同志村, or comrade village, translates to gayborhood. So yeah, everyone knows what comrade really means—everyone except the president of China, apparently.

Sep 04, 2018
Imagining a Way Out of My Codependency

My codependency is always trying to convince me that it deserves to live. It asks me to keep the poison coming.

Aug 22, 2018
How Brazil’s Madame Satã Transformed His Life and Became an Icon

By day, he protected businesses from thieves and corrupt police. By night, he changed into sequined gowns to sing and dance in Rio de Janeiro’s cabarets.

You Bet Your Life: ‘Death Bonds,’ the Investments That Want You Dead

When a new drug regime gave him a renewed lease of life, Morrison began to receive irate calls from the investor who’d bought over his insurance policies.

Aug 02, 2018
When Scandal Swallows a Book

Marjorie Hillis's 1930s self-help bestseller, which celebrated women's happiness, met a strange fate in England.

Jul 19, 2018
How Leslie Feinberg Became the Parent I Needed During My Transition

“I needed preparation, not protection. I needed to see myself as a part of history.”

Rent-a-Bee

No bodies were found; no predators were located.

Jul 03, 2018
Eventually, I Had to Lead: On Learning the Dance (and Writing the Book) That Scared Me

Tango is not a thing that can be done halfway. Neither, I learned, is memoir. You’re either all in, or you’re dishonest.

Jun 20, 2018
“Parrot Isn’t Hungry”: On Family, Food, Fasting, and Ramadan

This Eid will not be Eid until I’ve spent time crying and laughing, describing the aromas of foods that are not here.

May 15, 2018
What “American Night” Meant to My Chinese American Family

Holding on to our cultural foods and customs was a labor of love, but labor nevertheless. American Night provided a little respite.

Mar 29, 2018
When the Food You Rejected as a Kid Becomes Trendy

“FOE!” he had yelled, when really, phở is more graceful than that.

Jan 04, 2018
The Strangeness of Eating Fish

Herring in Ukraine to fried whiting on my street. Melville to Jewish legend. How easily we eat fish caught from depths we don’t understand.

Nov 30, 2017