Culture

What an Over-the-Top, Teen Cable Drama Taught Me About My Sexuality

I didn’t know—or think I knew—any visibly queer women, and watching these fictional women half-existing seemed both comforting and lonely.

Why Your Grandma’s Housecoat is the Perfect Work-From-Home Outfit

We fall prey to letting writing become a passion, cooking a hobby, teaching a service. We must rethink how we value labor.

Wearing Wigs Gave Me Freedom From the Shame of Mental Illness

And then there were the wigs: exercises in risk-taking, rejections of my boring and shame-consumed past self.

Sep 05, 2019
In Defense of the Low Bar: An Ode to Everclear

Kurt Cobain would not approve, but privately I wondered if there wasn’t space for a beloved burnished thing in my new and improved pop pantheon.

Aug 29, 2019
‘Camelot,’ the Hollywood Failure That Taught Me to Live Again

I think now, what is life if not a rather ridiculous, fumbling, histrionic, financially ruinous, unwieldy thing?

Aug 21, 2019
What Vin Diesel Taught Me About Singing and Sincerity

Vin closes his eyes and bares his soul, meaning each word of the song, and isn’t that the point? Vin never claimed to be a good singer.

Aug 20, 2019
How Fanny Mendelssohn’s “Hiob Cantata” Inspired Me to Become a Screenwriter

This film is an opportunity to help rescue Fanny Mendelssohn from near-obscurity; and to do the same for me.

Aug 06, 2019
For Black Women, Love Is a Dangerous Thing—“Bitter” Showed Me How to Do It Anyway

I imagine she wrote it for women like me. Women who wear their hearts on their sleeves but hold their hands over their mouths.

Aug 01, 2019
Love, Peace, and Taco Grease: How I Left My Abusive Husband and Found Guy Fieri

Guy Fieri allowed me to ask: who do I fear noise and brightness for? Who do I fear food for? And he gave me the answer: I fear it for myself.

Jul 29, 2019
Redrawing the Lines: How Anime Helped Shape My Nonbinary Identity

At the time, I didn’t know I could be anything but a girl, a quiet Chinese American girl, cute and easy to ignore, but Kurama hinted at other possibilities.

Jul 25, 2019
How a Picasso Painting Helped Me Move Past Numbness After Trauma

I had not been erased by the violence I’d suffered, but was changed by it. A new, difficult layer had been added to my life.

How Wrestling Saved My Life and Let Me Express My Queerness

Wrestling never stops, so I couldn’t stop, and thus I am still here.

Jul 09, 2019
Letting Go of Guilt to Live My Truth as a Queer Woman

As euphoric as my queer epiphany felt, I’d had it as my mother lay sick. It felt like I was reentering the world as my mother was leaving it.

Jul 01, 2019
A Cure to Feeling Like You Need to Be Cured: Talking to Sayaka Murata in Tokyo

I go to Japan, pulled like a magnet, to see what is mine, undiscovered or forgotten; to see what will never be mine; and to find some way to reconcile the two.

Jun 25, 2019
Tailoring My Clothes, Fitting into My Life in America

My idea of home had changed, so I took the symbolic step of finding a new tailor—marking Philadelphia as a place that now fit me right, too.

The Gospel According to Fleabag

The truth was, for me and as for Fleabag, I wasn’t just looking for a good story to tell my friends. I was looking for something so much harder to grasp: a narrative.

Reading My Way Into a Queer Literary Lineage

For queer writers, the discovery of this literary lineage is essential to our very existence, to our very expression of self. We can’t find the words without them.

Jun 20, 2019
Son Boy Allowed: A Trans Mother Finds Space for Boyhood

Well, what does it mean to be a boy or a girl? The answer so often is, simply: I don’t know. And I’m not sure that it actually matters, anyway.

Jun 18, 2019
I Let Go of My Faith When I Came Out—But I Still Believe in Jennifer Knapp

What was I getting out shame, anyway? So I walked away from it all: going to church, reading scripture, prayer, even the Christian music I loved so much.

Jun 17, 2019
These Boots Were Made for Walkin’ Away from Oklahoma

There was nowhere to go back to. Oklahoma was out of the question, always out of the question. But then, where was home?

Jun 13, 2019