Columns

Living in Paris, I’m Just Another American—and the French Don’t Seem to Mind

My life as an American in Paris is a far cry from what the glamorous direct-to-DVD movies make it out to be. Still, that’s the story I tell.

Jan 15, 2020
On Delilah and the Villains We Make of Women Who Seek Power

Succubus, siren, gold-digger, temptress: There are so many words for a woman with money in her hands.

Jan 14, 2020
The Grammar of Time Travel

There is a comfort in believing that all our ancestors’ understandings of time and space, however met with destruction, live on.

“Here Comes the Sun” Was an Anthem of Hope, Now It’s a Reminder of Climate Change

Every day, as news reports about climate change become more threatening, I grow more nostalgic for the places and objects of my childhood that feel increasingly imperiled.

Jan 09, 2020
Walking Paths to Self and Family in Darjeeling

In Darjeeling, the landscape and my familyscape seemed to be living, breathing beings, the paths like veins and the stories like the flow of blood.

Jan 09, 2020
“Are You Really Sisters?”

The only means for talking about our mixed heritage was the ‘adorable’ contrast between ‘the girls,’ as we were called: one light, one dark; same parents, different skin.

Jan 08, 2020
‘The Wizard of Oz’ Is a Story About Grief

We’re told the Wicked Witch wants the ruby slippers because they have magic powers—but so does any material object once possessed and cherished by a deceased loved one.

Jan 07, 2020
My Father and the Dragon King

Myths were—are—created to explain the unknown, like natural disasters, like death, like the unknowable bodies of water.

Jan 06, 2020
The Smell of Notre Dame Burning

This smell of Notre Dame burning was the smell of books older than all our lives—on fire.

Dec 18, 2019
No, I Don’t Want Your Advice on How My Kids or I Can Be “Cured”

I’m not looking for a cure—not for my kids, and not for me. Any treatment we choose is merely a tool to help us enjoy our lives.

Dec 16, 2019
Is “Paris Syndrome” a Real Thing?

When you don’t have sky-high expectations for Paris to begin with, the disillusionment you find in the City of Light is much more nuanced.

Dec 12, 2019
Finding Eden and Myself in a Vietnamese Shopping Center

There, as I walk in a sea of Vietnamese people, I know I stand out.

Dec 11, 2019
Sans Surname

Linguistic diversity is under threat around the world. Each challenge to a patriarchal binary system marks a step away from extinction of this richness.

Karen O of the Yeah Yeah Yeahs Taught Me to Break Free from the Model Minority Myth

Being good at working hard felt like a tired routine. Being polite was starting to grate.

Dec 05, 2019
“Just a Waitress”: On Abuse Faced by Women of Color in the Restaurant Industry

Abuse and harassment within the restaurant industry is very much intertwined with other forms of racial and economic oppression and violence.

Dec 04, 2019
What The Tibetan Book of the Dead Teaches Us About Life

When my grandmother died, lamas stayed for five days next to her body, guiding her through bardo by reading from The Tibetan Book of the Dead.

Dec 02, 2019
When My Marriage Ended, I Learned to Relish the Space I Was Given

Being left behind is not a disadvantage. It is an opportunity to grow and an opportunity to live life on my own terms.

Nov 27, 2019
What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Mental Health and Medication

Experiencing a severe reaction to medication taught me many interesting things about the limits of my own body, but also the limits of the world around me.

Nov 26, 2019
Samin Nosrat, Phil Rosenthal, and the Spirit of Eating with No Reservations

Do we hold the specialness of each meal at the core of our travel? Or is a meal that happens during a vacation a shadow of the memories it serves to create?

Nov 25, 2019
The Brain-Smashing, Pity-Bashing Art of Blind Punk

Embracing the stigma and using it as a weapon feels punk.

Nov 21, 2019