Columns

Confronting the Violence of Gentrification in Your Hometown

Moving home to Newark has been a surreal experience because I have had to mourn places that once were, but are no longer.

Dec 04, 2018
I’ll Fight Anyone Who Says You Shouldn’t Put Cheese on Your Ramyun

Ramen is comfort food, a thing to soak up your regrets and get you through a rough day. But my favorite way to enjoy it has courted great controversy among my friends and family.

Dec 03, 2018
When People See Your Blindness as Superhuman, They Stop Seeing You as Human

The sixth sense, second sight, third eye. We are supposed to have both extra-accurate hearing and perfect pitch, more numerous and more acute taste buds, a finer touch, a bloodhound’s sense of smell.

Nov 29, 2018
When You’re a Mom with Anxiety Disorder, You Know the Monsters Are Real

I have such immense anxiety. It sweeps me up into its furious winds. And my kids are at the middle of the storm.

Nov 26, 2018
How I Learned to Tell Signal from Noise and Appreciate Calm

It can be easy to confuse real emotion with the shiny drama enfolding it. Sometimes grand gestures are signs of grand feeling—sometimes they’re not.

Nov 19, 2018
“The Fifth Element” Was Made For Straight Boys—The Gay Ones Made It For Themselves

My family enjoyed “The Fifth Element” without seeing how queer it was. Did that mean they could not see how queer I was?

Nov 13, 2018
Why Canterbury Tales Is the Ultimate Road Trip Story

How do we pass the time while traveling from Point A to Point B? What stories do we tell one another, and how do those stories connect?

Oct 30, 2018
Why You Should Be Watching Maangchi, the Korean Cooking YouTube Star

I used to imagine having a Korean mother, someone rich in stories and jokes about Korean food and culture. My Korean mom would, ideally, be Maangchi.

Oct 29, 2018
How Disney’s Animated Movies Awakened My Queer Imagination

Animation can teach a kid a lot about themselves and the world around them. Disney movies taught me about my queer desires.

Oct 23, 2018
The Beauty of Spaces Created For and By Disabled People

It is very rare, as a disabled person, that I have an intense sense of belonging, of being not just tolerated or included in a space, but actively owning it.

Oct 22, 2018
Finding a World Big Enough for My Twice-Exceptional Kids

Every day, when my kids come home from school, the first thing I ask them—like most parents do—is about school. But unlike most parents, I do not expect my kids to say that school was fine.

Oct 17, 2018
Montrose, the Neighborhood That Gave Us Everything

Montrose was unofficially codified as the nexus of queer life in Houston. That’s the part we cared about. If you held a map to the wall, I could tell you how we came to be on those streets.

Oct 16, 2018
Parting the Sea, and Why the White Cane is a Symbol of Power, Not Helplessness

I felt that whipping out the white cane would irrevocably launch me into the kingdom of the blind, and, for many years, I did not want to go there.

Oct 15, 2018
When Male Fairy Tale Archetypes Are Used to Promote Harmful Sexual Ideologies

The long and fluid history of fairy tales shows us that men who want to control, dehumanize, and violate women have always existed.

Sep 26, 2018
Black Tourmaline Is Supposed to Help You Set Boundaries—But What If You Go Too Far?

It’s easier to cut people out than to learn to differentiate between the chronically demanding and the occasionally needy. It’s war, we tell ourselves.

Sep 24, 2018
How the Immortal Jellyfish Helps Me Rewrite My Queer Childhood

I have no desire to live forever. But what I would give to return to adolescence and do it over, even once! To kiss who I wanted to kiss, not settling for her brother.

Sep 20, 2018
The Love of Korean Cooking I Share With My White Mother

In her illness, Korean food was all my Polish-American mom from Jersey wanted to eat. It was all that she could bear.

Sep 19, 2018
Citrine and the Cost of Happiness: How Conflating Money with Success Keeps Us All Trapped

If citrine is supposed to bring you abundance, what might it bring if you didn’t need so much wealth in our capitalist hellscape?

Aug 29, 2018
We Were Prepared for a Storm, But Not Hurricane Harvey

There will be as many different iterations of this storm, and the ones to come, as there are Houstonians. And we have to hear them—they’re what will determine our map for the next one.

Aug 27, 2018
Cripple Perks: The Unreasonable Luxury of Living While Disabled

“Accommodations are things that we need, and deserve, in order to lead our lives. But they’re treated—we are treated—like we’re trying to pull one over on the rest of society.”

Aug 15, 2018