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What Does It Take to Be a Woman Who Has It All?

When we look at women who work, what remains unseen and what is expected to remain hidden?

Dec 03, 2020
My Great-Grandfather’s Saddle Rug Helps Me Remember a Tibet That’s Gone

I borrowed a bicycle and explored, in the same way my great-grandfather had gone about on his pony sixty years earlier.

Nov 30, 2020
How I'm Learning to Manage Rage as a Bipolar Woman

Are these the only two stories? The one, where you defeat your monster, and the other, where you succumb to it?

Nov 19, 2020
First You Must Know Something Is Wrong

Everyone’s experience of a diagnosis is different. Here is mine: A key opens a lock I didn’t know existed, sending a door swinging wide.

Nov 16, 2020
Get Your Kicks on Route 66: A Comic

I’ll drive with that tender balance of guilt and curiosity and a lifetime of learning and unlearning, still looking for an America that was there, is there, and will be there.

Oct 23, 2020
How Mental Illness Became a Scapegoat for Trump’s White Supremacy

When you attribute someone’s evil actions to their mental health status rather than their actual root cause—like white supremacy—then that evil is no longer presented as a choice.

Oct 21, 2020
How Years of Running Beauty Focus Groups Nearly Destroyed Me

I am the only one in the room who is neither asked nor allowed to answer: “How does that make you feel?”

Oct 20, 2020
The Year of Breath

I try to feel my lungs expanding and contracting, just to make sure they still are. There is something soothing, like the indigo of a fading day, in that reminder.

Oct 15, 2020
How a Tibetan Turquoise Pendant Keeps Me Close to Home

In giving me her pendant, was my mother not only wishing me well on my journey but handing over our family’s story?

Sep 30, 2020
In Defense of the Worst Cooks in America

The soundstage’s kitchen didn’t have a dishwasher, so he was forced to make dishwasher salmon in the oven instead—like some kind of hack.

Sep 22, 2020
Writing a Book About Asexuality Taught Me to Look for a Fate Beyond Numbers

I learned to reevaluate the meaning of ‘normal’ in relationships, and also my habit of reflexively turning to data.

Sep 15, 2020
A Chinese American Fairy Tale

I love my parents because they are in me, but I wonder if, when they look at me, they see those parts or instead a shapeshifter who’s slowly taken over the person they thought they’d raised.

Aug 27, 2020
Disability Sucks Sometimes. Why is it Taboo to Say So?

Disability ruins everything, these stories tell us: disability itself is tragedy. These people’s lives are over, apparently, even though they are palpably still here.

Aug 25, 2020
Stone Fruit Season: A Comic

Yes, I dared to eat a peach. And I had to live, so I could eat another.

Aug 21, 2020
Goodbye to All That Sex and the City

I couldn’t help but wonder: Of all the self-chroniclers I’d gone to like a moth in my early twenties, why were so few brown, and Black?

Aug 20, 2020
What If Accessibility Was Also Inclusive?

It’s hard to articulate what it feels like to spend a lifetime being told that you are not allowed. Not always in so many words, but in gestures, in spaces, in thoughtlessness.

Jul 28, 2020
What the Religious Right Gets Wrong About Monsters

Perhaps the certainty that you are not the monster—that no matter what you do, you will never become the monster—is what gives rise to monstrous behavior.

Jul 27, 2020
Budding History: On Nationalism and Cherry Blossoms

Through myth-making and symbolism, the natural world comes to stand in for potent human ideals.

Jul 23, 2020