Columns

When My Daughter and I Moved in with My Parents, Making Ice Cream Brought Us Together

Do other people ascribe “luck” to objects? I wondered. Wouldn’t it be far better to finally use this kitchen appliance and truly love it?

May 14, 2019
On Star Trek: Discovery’s Philippa Georgiou and How We Turn Our Mothers into Villains

I blamed my mother for so many things, but I blamed her especially for being a mere mortal when what I really needed was a supreme, supernaturally benevolent being.

May 13, 2019
Watching ‘Notting Hill’ and Wanting to Be Julia

I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to overlook certain aspects of her appearance.

May 07, 2019
Watchword: How Octavia Butler Teaches Us Persistence

Of all the things that have come and gone in my life, I wanted this one thing, just one: to be a writer.

May 06, 2019
What Catwoman Taught Me About Sexuality and Power

Wearing the catsuit and embodying Pfeiffer’s slinkiness as best I could in my awkward, skinny body, I understood for the first time that I could be a sexual being, not just a sexual object.

Apr 30, 2019
When Disability Is a Toxic Legacy

Disability is not wrong or tragic or bad, but sometimes it is a symptom of a grave injustice.

Apr 23, 2019
Do Memes Change How We Remember History?

“Some memes may actually dissolve the original significance of iconic photographs and potentially degrade, rather than enhance, public culture.”

Apr 22, 2019
How I (Finally) Decided to Freeze My Eggs

Sometimes I joke that I’m already primed for motherhood because I’m already well-versed in guilt, blaming myself for things over which I have little control.

Apr 18, 2019
Living with Climate Change in the Forests of Our Burning World

How do I raise a child to love a world that may be dying, to live with compassion in the midst of what could very well be despair?

Apr 18, 2019
Learning How to Be Gentle in the Face of Trauma—Others’ and My Own

Bees do not attack—just as trauma survivors do not attack, but rather defend. She will not sting you unless she believes the colony’s life depends on her defense. Because when she stings you, she dies.

Apr 09, 2019
Posing for a Nude Portrait Taught Me to Separate Desire From Intimacy

When Jack drew Rose like one of his French girls, he didn’t just sketch her; he saw her. It’s a level of intimacy that doesn’t need desire—but that doesn’t make it any less erotic.

Apr 02, 2019
Remembering Matthew Shepard’s Legacy in His Own Backyard

In this small town of Laramie, what you say matters. It gets around. The only way to combat the misinformation is to keep telling the truth.

The Guatemalan Asylum Seeker Who Was Almost Deported—to Mexico

I told him clearly in that interview: “I am here because I’m afraid I will be killed in my country. I cannot return to Guatemala. I will die if I do.” The immigration officer acted like he did not understand.

Mar 27, 2019
Watchword: A Writer Should Keep the Future in Mind

No one else can judge your practice. You must believe in the work that is in front of you, taking shape before your eyes.

Mar 25, 2019
Friendship Has Always Been Hard for Me—I Hope I Can Make It Easier for My Kids

Unwritten social rules might as well not exist for me. The only reason I can read them at all is because I’ve forced myself to learn them.

Mar 25, 2019
How Did I Get to Thirty-Five Without Really Understanding My Reproductive System?

I wanted to know more about my fertility because I thought it might help me prepare for a someday I wasn’t willing to give up on.

Mar 18, 2019
The Utopian Colony Around Tennessee’s Oldest Library

The New York Times, Harper’s Weekly and The Spectator sent stringers to cover the experiment. The writer from Harper’s was so impressed, he speculated “that the coming year would witness a grand exodus of the middle classes of England.”

Acknowledging Tragedy While Finding Love and Joy in AIDS Films

I gravitate towards AIDS stories because, behind their righteous anger and torturous despair, they lay out visions of couples and communities.

Mar 12, 2019
Every Time I Smell Fresh Ginger, I Think of My Uncle Sam

I’d never seen a Korean man cook before Sam, and I was captivated.

Mar 11, 2019