When Women Approach and Men Receive: Masculinity and Sexual Subjectivity in the Strip Club
When we conflate men’s sexuality with harassment and violence, we don’t ask much of them. Masculinity doesn’t have to be toxic.
like a man.
Stone Butch Blues, Stone Butch Blues
was,How do we get from there to the club, a place where men routinely ask me which of my body parts are real and which are fake, how my boyfriend lets me get away with dancing here, or how much it would cost to fuck me?
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