The Obsession with “Getting Ahead” in Your Twenties Is Failing Young People
Why do we need measuring sticks like college and marriage and leaving home to track our worth?
Rainesford Stauffer is a freelance writer and Kentuckian. She is the author ofAn Ordinary Age (Harper Perennial, 2021) and All the Gold Stars: Reimagining Ambition and the Ways We Strive (forthcoming from Hachette Books, May 2023).
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