Teaching Our Children How to Mourn
“We teach each other the prayer so that when someone dies, we are ready to fulfill our obligations.”
This is a monthly column about parenting and faith coauthored by Saadia Faruqi and Shoshana Kordova.
Where does the soul go after death? Why did my loved one die in the first place?
Where have you been?
Why was he under the groundHow could he breathe?
What about his eyesCan he still see? What did they do with him after he died? Is the big hole in the ground like the hole that Angelina Ballerina falls into with Henry and they can’t get out?
When I told you I needed water last night and nobody answered me, I thought you died.
Saadia Faruqi is a Pakistani American writer. She is the editor of Muslim literary journal Blue Minaret and author of the short story collection Brick Walls: Tales of Hope & Courage from Pakistan. She lives in Houston with her husband and children. @saadiafaruqi
Shoshana Kordova is an Orthodox Jewish writer and editor raised in NJ and living in Israel. She has written for Smithsonian, Prevention, Quartz, NYT's Motherlode, and The Daily Beast. She has four daughters. @shoshanakordova
Shoshana and Saadia are co-founders of Have Faith, Will Parent, a meeting place for parents of all religions.
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