Can Desire or Love Be Predicted?
Data versus the real world: what compatibility algorithms can’t tell you.
This is DATA, a monthly column by Angela Chen on numbers, nerdery, and what it means to live an evidence-based life.
I’m a friend of a friendYou know Mark, right?
I would meet my soulmate soonHe would be 5’8” and blond, with blue or gray eyes, and I would meet him in either two weeks or two months.
We’ll get to career,But more important is that I think you’ll meet a man who will be very important in an emotional way.
Not a chance
Angela Chen is a science journalist and the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, which was named one of the best books of 2020 by NPR, Electric Literature, and Them. Her reporting and essays have also appeared in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, The Atlantic, MIT Technology Review, The Guardian, National Geographic, Paris Review, Lapham's Quarterly, and more.
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