John Paul Brammer

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I am a writer, journalist, and advice columnist from Oklahoma currently residing in New York City. I have contributed to NBC News, BuzzFeed, The Guardian, and more. My weekly column is called "Hola Papi!" and can be found on Condé Nast's LGBTQ+ outlet,


Cover Photo: An illustration of two men—one white, one Mexican—observing a larger-than-human medallion with the image of a grandmother as the Mother Cabrini in a gallery of Mesoamerican artifacts
The Moon’s Navel

“You’re Mexican!” he said a little too enthusiastically, like I was just what he’d been looking for. I worried that he was going to put me in his museum or something.

Nov 08, 2019
Cover Photo: Photograph by Andreas Dress/Unsplash
These Boots Were Made for Walkin’ Away from Oklahoma

There was nowhere to go back to. Oklahoma was out of the question, always out of the question. But then, where was home?

Jun 13, 2019
Cover Photo: Photograph by the Fischer Twins/Unsplash
Unheard Grief, Unmovable Men: How an Old Mexican Folktale Speaks to Our Pain Today

All the wrong people are crying, and all the people who ought to feel something do not.

Nov 05, 2018