Queer Life

How Queer Sex Liberated Me

Leaving my cishet marriage was hard, but it set us both free to find more satisfying relationships.

How ‘Drag Race’ Helped Me See My Non-Binary Identity

When I look at my personal aesthetic (if I could call it that), I see something that gives me room to move through binaries.

Oct 15, 2020
Taking Thirst Traps to Preserve Myself—and My Transition—in the Middle of the Pandemic

There is something attractive about being the subject and the artist all at once; of being entirely in control of how I am seen, who sees me.

Sep 28, 2020
Herbal Hormone Supplements Can Change the Meaning of Trans Embodiment

Estrogen and testosterone have historically been deployed to produce gender compliant citizens. What if, instead, they were agents of autonomy?

How the Secrets Came Out

This was about protecting the new self growing its delicate way within me.

Aug 17, 2020
When Work Doesn’t Love You Back

Reflecting on my personal work history, I’ve learned that searching for a job I love has often kept me from balance in my creative life.

Aug 13, 2020
This Green Velvet Jacket Helped Me Understand My Nonbinary Identity

It’s about being able to say, oh, gender? It’s no big deal. I just threw this gender on today.

Jun 30, 2020
Finding a More Tender, Queer Masculinity in ‘The Outsiders’

The Outsiders’ world was the one in which I wanted to belong.

Jun 24, 2020
The Big Gay Move

For all the meaningful internal changes I’d made since coming out, the city and space and circles I occupied were keeping me tethered.

Jun 11, 2020
Queer Visibility and the Self-Checkout Camera

It both thrills me to watch myself as others might watch me in the world, and instills in me a deep loneliness—a grief that reminds me I am so helplessly stuck inside of myself.

Apr 27, 2020
The Homoerotics of Water

In the water, what you are called can change. And words, like water, will dissolve.

Mar 19, 2020
How My Community Showed Me I Could Be Both Muslim and Queer

“It was this Islam, the Islam of authenticity, community, justice, and love, that showed me how to be a truer version of myself.”

Sep 18, 2019
Letting Go of Guilt to Live My Truth as a Queer Woman

As euphoric as my queer epiphany felt, I’d had it as my mother lay sick. It felt like I was reentering the world as my mother was leaving it.

Jul 01, 2019
Reading My Way Into a Queer Literary Lineage

For queer writers, the discovery of this literary lineage is essential to our very existence, to our very expression of self. We can’t find the words without them.

Jun 20, 2019
Son Boy Allowed: A Trans Mother Finds Space for Boyhood

Well, what does it mean to be a boy or a girl? The answer so often is, simply: I don’t know. And I’m not sure that it actually matters, anyway.

Jun 18, 2019
I Let Go of My Faith When I Came Out—But I Still Believe in Jennifer Knapp

What was I getting out shame, anyway? So I walked away from it all: going to church, reading scripture, prayer, even the Christian music I loved so much.

Jun 17, 2019
These Boots Were Made for Walkin’ Away from Oklahoma

There was nowhere to go back to. Oklahoma was out of the question, always out of the question. But then, where was home?

Jun 13, 2019
Cooking Up Pride and Community at the LGBT Center’s Annual Garden Party

There’s nothing more queer than cobbling together something fabulous out of very little.

Jun 11, 2019
What It Means to Be Trans in My Tiny Town

My trans friends rarely come home, and when they do, it is for brief bursts of time. They question why I’ve chosen to keep living here.

Jun 10, 2019
Speculating on Queer Pasts to Achieve a Queer Eternity for My Tío Cano

I want to believe that I inherited too ways of feeling joy, ways of finding pleasure, ways of being with other queers in raucous and wild ways.

Jun 03, 2019