Queer Life

Patti Smith Defined Cool in Lesbian Bars of the ’80s

I pinballed between circles of lesbians but settled nowhere. Gorgeous women were everywhere but always out of reach in San Francisco’s mesmerizing haze.

May 26, 2022
On Running Shirtless While Trans

Maybe I was tired of hiding and being afraid. Maybe I was just overheating and my nipples were starting to chafe. Maybe it was all or none of the above.

May 10, 2022
It’s More Than Just “Two Boys Kissing”

David Wojnarowicz captured the chaos of living as a gay man in the 1980s and early 1990s with HIV overshadowing everything we did and felt.

May 02, 2022
Starting Testosterone During Ramadan Led Me to the Sacred in My Trans Self

Before testosterone, few people ever saw me cry. Now tears come in hot floods, as though some tender, unlanguaged creature has surfaced inside me.

Nov 24, 2021
Lessons On Camp and Queerness from ‘American Horror Story’

Madison Montgomery never stops performing. She is at once person and persona.

Nov 04, 2021
The Night a Grieving Phantom in the Everglades Changed My Life

The land that was previously seen as harsh and brutal by colonial forces was actually a site of survival, new life, and renewal.

Confessions of a Little Mermaid

The taste of silence and salt heavy on my tongue.

Matthew Shepard Bought an Engagement Ring

I knew about Matt’s legacy, but I didn’t know much about his life.

Oct 05, 2021
Coming Out, as Told by Florida Wildlife

Can you still hear us? We’re drowning the state in our chirps tonight if you’d care to sing along.

Jun 22, 2021
How Writing My Young Adult Novel Helped Me Reclaim the Queer Girlhood I Lost

The years I suppressed my queerness are a loss that I'm exploring and grieving—if only through fiction.

Jun 17, 2021
Halloween 1998, Old Man with Old Wife

Obviously, I cannot be the old woman. Obviously, I cannot be the woman.

Jun 15, 2021
Building the Trans Gaze For Myself

Why does my assigned sex have to limit me at all?

May 24, 2021
Learning to Hate Yourself in Los Angeles

They told me, “Gay people are all in WeHo. There are no gay people in Inglewood.” To be gay was not only to be Other, but to be white.

May 05, 2021
How Clea DuVall Helped Me Find Queer Joy

But I’m a Cheerleader gave me something to hold onto: for the first time, I had seen queer love and community.

Apr 14, 2021
The Queer Diary of an Extreme Heterozygote

Extreme heterozygotes are everywhere in this world. Everyone could be one.

Apr 01, 2021
Visible Invisibility: The Ghostly Nature of Queer-Reading

I cannot explain queerness any longer in ways that don’t involve ghosts.

Mar 15, 2021
Before There Was a Q

Look like “a boy,” they call you “a boy.” Everyone believed my mother got her answer to her prayer, and for a while it seemed to be so.

Mar 08, 2021
How to Come Out in French

Before I was queer, I was French.

Dec 10, 2020
How Queer Sex Liberated Me

Leaving my cishet marriage was hard, but it set us both free to find more satisfying relationships.

How ‘Drag Race’ Helped Me See My Non-Binary Identity

When I look at my personal aesthetic (if I could call it that), I see something that gives me room to move through binaries.

Oct 15, 2020