Queer Life

How Queer Korean Representation Helped Me Understand Who I Am—and What I Could Lose

I know that I’m living in a ticking clock, and all of this—dinners with my parents, peaceful conversations—will likely be gone one day.

Feb 07, 2019
Twinkdom Has an Expiration Date, But Spinsterhood is Forever

For me, homosexuality is an invitation to opt out, to abstain from the trappings of heteronormativity, a gift of eternal boyhood.

Jan 24, 2019
“I should hate forever to be a burden to you”: Lessons in Love from Virginia Woolf and Vita Sackville-West

I don’t want to take time away from your book, she said, but the book could wait. My writing was always there. She might not be.

Jan 09, 2019
As a Trans Person, I Don’t Need You to Hug Me. I Need You to Fight for Me.

Trans people have rights because we’re human—not because we’re special. So why does having those rights recognized require a flood of trans tears?

Dec 06, 2018
How I Learned the Craft of Going on Dates with Girls

I have dated long enough to see a change, and I am still young enough to work at the craft.

Nov 15, 2018
When Your Family Wants You To Be “All Boy”

I wanted to tell him that, if I could, I would give him my body to use however he saw fit. It meant nothing to me. If only bodies were like gloves you could peel off and lose.

Sep 12, 2018
My Queer Chinese Comrades, in My Mother Tongue

Today tongzhi is seldom used in a political context, if ever: The Beijing LGBT center is called Beijing Comrade Center; 同志村, or comrade village, translates to gayborhood. So yeah, everyone knows what comrade really means—everyone except the president of China, apparently.

Sep 04, 2018