Queer Life

Coming Out, as Told by Florida Wildlife

Can you still hear us? We’re drowning the state in our chirps tonight if you’d care to sing along.

Jun 22, 2021
How Writing My Young Adult Novel Helped Me Reclaim the Queer Girlhood I Lost

The years I suppressed my queerness are a loss that I'm exploring and grieving—if only through fiction.

Jun 17, 2021
Halloween 1998, Old Man with Old Wife

Obviously, I cannot be the old woman. Obviously, I cannot be the woman.

Jun 15, 2021
Building the Trans Gaze For Myself

Why does my assigned sex have to limit me at all?

May 24, 2021
Learning to Hate Yourself in Los Angeles

They told me, “Gay people are all in WeHo. There are no gay people in Inglewood.” To be gay was not only to be Other, but to be white.

May 05, 2021
How Clea DuVall Helped Me Find Queer Joy

But I’m a Cheerleader gave me something to hold onto: for the first time, I had seen queer love and community.

Apr 14, 2021
The Queer Diary of an Extreme Heterozygote

Extreme heterozygotes are everywhere in this world. Everyone could be one.

Apr 01, 2021
Visible Invisibility: The Ghostly Nature of Queer-Reading

I cannot explain queerness any longer in ways that don’t involve ghosts.

Mar 15, 2021
Before There Was a Q

Look like “a boy,” they call you “a boy.” Everyone believed my mother got her answer to her prayer, and for a while it seemed to be so.

Mar 08, 2021
How to Come Out in French

Before I was queer, I was French.

Dec 10, 2020
How Queer Sex Liberated Me

Leaving my cishet marriage was hard, but it set us both free to find more satisfying relationships.

How ‘Drag Race’ Helped Me See My Non-Binary Identity

When I look at my personal aesthetic (if I could call it that), I see something that gives me room to move through binaries.

Oct 15, 2020
Taking Thirst Traps to Preserve Myself—and My Transition—in the Middle of the Pandemic

There is something attractive about being the subject and the artist all at once; of being entirely in control of how I am seen, who sees me.

Sep 28, 2020
Herbal Hormone Supplements Can Change the Meaning of Trans Embodiment

Estrogen and testosterone have historically been deployed to produce gender compliant citizens. What if, instead, they were agents of autonomy?

How the Secrets Came Out

This was about protecting the new self growing its delicate way within me.

Aug 17, 2020
When Work Doesn’t Love You Back

Reflecting on my personal work history, I’ve learned that searching for a job I love has often kept me from balance in my creative life.

Aug 13, 2020
This Green Velvet Jacket Helped Me Understand My Nonbinary Identity

It’s about being able to say, oh, gender? It’s no big deal. I just threw this gender on today.

Jun 30, 2020
Finding a More Tender, Queer Masculinity in ‘The Outsiders’

The Outsiders’ world was the one in which I wanted to belong.

Jun 24, 2020
The Big Gay Move

For all the meaningful internal changes I’d made since coming out, the city and space and circles I occupied were keeping me tethered.

Jun 11, 2020
Queer Visibility and the Self-Checkout Camera

It both thrills me to watch myself as others might watch me in the world, and instills in me a deep loneliness—a grief that reminds me I am so helplessly stuck inside of myself.

Apr 27, 2020