Mates

My Friend Died of Cancer, but Lives in Moss

I’d been walking alone in the Maine woods six months after she died when someone rushed up behind me.

Jun 13, 2018
“I was worried that no one would see me; that they would only see a Wife”: On a John Singer Sargent Painting and Marrying Young

I see two people who are entwined, but never completely, and not at the expense of their separate selves.

Jun 12, 2018
Why I Want an Arranged Marriage

Certainly we can’t force people to marry people they don’t want to. But to me, the idea of inviting my parents into the selection process is not such a radical idea.

Jun 04, 2018
What I Miss: A List

“I miss your record player, and the sense of home you carried with you, although you’d never really been at home anywhere.”

Apr 23, 2018
How to Travel Through Time with Your Kindred Spirit (and Also Make a Feminist Webseries)

How much importance is seemly to place on our work and friends? How big a feeling are we allowed to feel for things that are not global calamities, or men?

Apr 03, 2018
In Difficult Love: When Your Childhood Maps Who and How You Love

I grew up with food stamps, latchkeys, Lee jeans from an outlet, Campbell’s soup, three deadbeat dads, and a mother who wrote letters to a TV evangelist praying for a husband.

Feb 22, 2018
The Distance Test: A Comic by Liana Finck

“You have to go away first.” “Like this?” “No. Farther.”

Jan 11, 2018
Daddy Issues, or Not: When You Marry a Much Older Man

I know it’s not supposed to work this way. We damaged daughters should seek healing in therapy, not romantic relationships.

Jan 03, 2018
Why I’m Letting My Best Friend Haunt Me

“The symptoms of anxiety and the symptoms of a haunting are so similar.”

How to Look at an Argument: Goodbye

“I told you all these lies because I was afraid you would leave me.”

Dec 12, 2017
What the World Gets Wrong About My Quadriplegic Husband and Me

They imagine I’m his “caretaker,” a loaded word, veritably stuffed with presumption.

Dec 06, 2017
How to Look at an Argument: “I Love You, Anthony.”

Once upon a time, in a land much larger than this one . . .

Nov 28, 2017
How to Look at an Argument: Le Sigh

“How can I trust you if I don’t understand you?”

Nov 13, 2017
How to Look at an Argument: Regret

“What have I done to you?”

Oct 25, 2017
How to Look at an Argument: The Deal-Breaker

“It can’t work if I’m the only one willing to DEAL with things.”

Oct 10, 2017
How to Look at an Argument: The Metaphor

“What is this thing that stands between us?”

Sep 25, 2017
Fortunate Friends: A Leap Across the Wealth Gap and Into a New Home

A friend as your mortgage holder? It seemed like one of those things you should never, ever do.

Sep 25, 2017
Pals: The Married Man and Me

“Our friendship was so beautifully effortless because it was devoid of expectation.”

May 30, 2017
Becoming the Ghost

“If I saw her on campus, I altered my route and walked in a different direction.”

Sep 16, 2016
A Dear Friend

“My slow journey back to him is what defines this kind of quiet love.”

Jun 15, 2016