Sep 09, 2020
Why I Stopped Celebrating My “Birthday”
I don’t know when I was born. I’ve stopped pretending that I do.
Why We Shouldn’t Call Adoptees “Lucky”
If all adoptees felt not only safe, but empowered in their families and their communities, I would feel better—but not lucky.
Sep 17, 2019
Secret Adoption, Sacrament, and Other Lies That Live in the Body
Will my intestines turn the sacred bread into holy shit, or does the miracle not extend that far into the digestive process?
Aug 26, 2019
Searching for Connection, Identity, and Community as a Honduran-Born Adoptee
I wanted her language, her understanding of Honduras, a family like hers. I wanted things she could never give me.
Aug 08, 2019
One Mother, Two Mothers, No Mother
Adoption didn’t give me a forever mother. Being in reunion with my birth mother did not make me wholly mothered, either.
Jul 25, 2019
My Hope as a Parent Is Something I Share with My Birth Mother
This folder contained memories I did not have, information about a family I did not know.
Mar 07, 2019
Hiking Toward Koreanness: An Adoptee Returns to Her Motherland
Adoption is one of those forks in the road where many of us try to glimpse through the trees to the other path, the other world.
Aug 01, 2018
Korean as a Second Language
I never would have come to Korean if not for my adoption. The language pulled me back to it, despite the decades, cultures, and continents between us.
Apr 23, 2018
Thirty Years After My Adoption, I Found Out I Wasn’t a US Citizen
“I hated when attention was brought to my adoptee status. I was American, and that was all I wanted to be.”
Oct 23, 2017
When an Adoptee Adopts
We wanted our son to know his first mother. Was it the right choice?
Aug 22, 2016
A Conversation with Brandon
I worried that my nephew considered it too late for reconnection.
Mar 22, 2016
The Thing About Being Gay and Adopted
“In moments like this, natural childbirth seems like magic to me.”
Mar 15, 2016
Buckle and Sway
“I have an insatiable appetite for photographs of people who look like me.”
Mar 08, 2016
Guilt
“I’d wanted nothing more than to be a Korean person, to speak fluently, to adapt culturally.”
Mar 01, 2016
Sin Will Find You Out
“I was born four years before Governor Rockefeller legalized abortion.”
Mar 01, 2016
